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No best man if no moh

Fmv, on June 13, 2019 at 8:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9

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So ivr asked everyone i wanted to be in the bridal party last year. They all said yes. I am not having a maid of honor. I just dont have that special bond with any of my girls, plus i have an image in my head from other weddings of how a moh is and what they do, and i just dont want to be disappointed.
My FH is very slowly asking his friends to be in the wedding. He has one friend he has known since 2nd grade, basically his bestfriend. He has always said he will be the best man- if he agrees to be(hes a really shy guy)
Now my FH says if i dont have a moh, he does not know if he wants a best man and feels it might looks awkward.
I personally dont think it would look weird because we are having 5 each.
Thoughts? What should i do?

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Latest activity by Melle, on June 13, 2019 at 10:38 AM

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Naikesha · on June 13, 2019 at 8:11 AM
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Allow him to have his best man I don't think it would be weird at all!
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Caytlyn · on June 13, 2019 at 8:11 AM
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I don't think anything about that would look weird. Reassure him that he should honor his best friend by giving him that role, even if you don't feel like you want to do that with anyone on your side.
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Haley · on June 13, 2019 at 8:24 AM
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I don't think it'd be weird. Basically no one else is going to know if he's a best man and you have no moh. They don't wear signs around the necks announcing their titles at the altar hahaha. Some people have 5 bridesmaids and 1 groomsmen and the sides aren't even at all. So I feel like especially because you each have 5, no one will even know that he has a best man and all your girls are simply bridesmaids.
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Kelly · on June 13, 2019 at 8:58 AM
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Because it's all even I think it'll look fine nobody will really know.
My bff didn't have a MOH and her husband's brother was his BM. Nobody knew but us.
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Bride2020 · on June 13, 2019 at 9:03 AM
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Exactly, it's not like anyone is going to know. If he's shy he might like it even more, having the title but having the option to not do a speech if he doesn't want and people will just assume you guys didn't want speeches. Unless one of your girls is still doing a speech, I might ask whoever that is to be MOH and tell her the speech is her only responsibility so you arent disappointed.
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Danielle · on June 13, 2019 at 9:07 AM
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I don't think it'll look weird. It's not like it's going to be extremely obvious to your guests and it's not like they are going to point it out and be like "OMG, look he has a best man and she doesn't have a MOH." Let him know it'll be just fine if he wants to ask his long time friend to be his best man.
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Fmv · on June 13, 2019 at 10:10 AM
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Hes allowed to do whatever he likes. Hes the one who was not sure if he wanted a best man due to myself not having a maid of honor. I dont think it will be weird at all
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Robert · on June 13, 2019 at 10:17 AM
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I've never actually been to a wedding with a MOH... but they've all had a best man. So I imagine it's totally normal and acceptable!
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Melle · on June 13, 2019 at 10:38 AM
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I don't think it would be weird. I have two moh and my groom doesn't have a best man. At the end of the day they're all just titles - they're just all there to help and support you
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