No bachelorette party or bridal shower

What state do you live in? I'm going through something kinda similar because my fiancé is about to deploy

That's rough. I live in Hawaii but getting married in NY and no family or bridal party here for me either but I am doing a bachelorette party with friends from here. Would that be an option for u? Or maybe have it the week of the wedding (cut it close) when they'd all be there?

That really sucks. ... I'm sorry. I can relate a little. I worked on cruise ships for several years, and I am an actor. So most of my closest friends are a. In the middle of contacts, b. Overseas, or c. In the middle of overseas contracts on my wedding day and during all my events, and can't come. Sometimes I get really sad about it, especially bc FH has more of his friends coming, but FH reminds me my friends would all be there if they could. Yours would be, too, I'm sure. But I know that sometimes that knowledge doesn't help much. Hugs.

In your particular case, I would probably just go non-traditional and throw a bridal shower/bachelorette/get-together soirée myself. Typically this would be inappropriate but I think in your circumstance, you throwing a casual pre-wedding celebration is better than missing out on all of those great events completely. Of course, in lieu of a gift you could have people bring their favorite recipe, or a photo with their favorite memory of you written on the back... There has to be a way to have some of those experiences that doesn't breach wedding etiquette.

Marianne, no, it's not polite to throw parties to honour your own self. The OP can have a get together with friends, just don't make it wedding-related.

I am in a simular situation.. even dress shopping my coworkers who I only know for a few months went with me.. They video tape for my parents to see but it just was not the same. I plan when everyone come for the wedding we can have a girls lime even if its the night before.

It sounds like the issue is no one is there, not that there isn't anyone able... So even if she threw her own party (which is consider a huge no-no), who would come?

Op- I'm sorry you feel so alone.

Would you be willing to put your name and registry down for virtual showering? It's a sticky post at the top of the page. I know it's not the same, but as you make friends here some brides and grooms may want to send you a little piece of a shower from WW.

Can you talk to your friends/BMs about seeing if they can come to the wedding a day earlier than planned and have a laid back bach party then?

My MOH and 1 of my 2 bridesmaids aren't local, so they are coming in 1-2 days before the wedding and sleeping over with me at the hotel the night before. It won't be a wild bach party at all, just hanging out in the room. But I can't WAIT for it!

It does suck. Only one of my bridesmaids is in the same state as me. My FMIL is flying me up to CT this spring for my bridesmaids to throw me a shower. This way it'll be with my family. Ask your bridesmaids how they feel about a bachelorette the night before the wedding. You can't get too crazy but at least you'll be spending time with them.

I know, I know.. :/

Especially cause a lot of what makes a shower/bachelorette so great is not being the one to have to plan it! This post just tugged at my heartstrings. I would be bummed out too.

Wishing you the best, Casaundra

I hear you. First- thank you for your service. I hope things start looking up. I entirely relate. I moved to Yokosuka to teach on base where I happened to meet FH. He was transferred to CA after he proposed so I followed him when j finished my contract. We are in San Diego and everyone- from wedding to family to BP- is on the east coast. My mom has been a huge help but things like dress-shopping alone sucked. I have strong doubts I'll have a shower or a bachelorette. Makes me sad....I attended so many of these for my friends in the past. But- life goes on. It'll all be alright in the end!!!

Can your friends "host" a virtual shower? Anyone who wants to send gifts could send them to your house, then at a certain time, you could all log onto Skype, sip some wine, hang out, and open your gifts!

OP - Your wedding isn't until March. How do you know that nobody is going to plan either of these for you?

I had the same question as @FutureMrsMaidenName -- your wedding is pretty far away. How do you know that your friends or family won't throw you these events? Any event wouldn't be until after the new year.