no bachelorette/ bachelor party :(

May I ask why you're both worried? bachelor/bachelorette party doesn't HAVE to involve drinking and wild partying.

I agree with @fitbride. You could have a nice dinner or spa day for yours, and he could do dinner and drinks with the guys - maybe incorporate a hobby he enjoys, like hunting or poker or something? Doesn't have to be a strip/booze fest

He has told me straight up that when one of his brothers (all of his groomsmen are his brothers and the best man is his friend) had asked if he could take him to a strip club. Well he quickly said no and hes told me it is just really awkward for himand he always feels out of place. Well his brothers and friends are also heavyish drinkers. He told them he wanted to stay home and drink. And they quickly said no that isnt fun enough. I hate when he drinks. I hate seeing him not himself. He doesnt like change too much but i can see his personality changing. He also goes by stereotypes saying that women will have a strippers. I said gross and that my MOH is a heavy bible thumper do tou think thatd really happen. Needless to say he dont believe me. One because we bought a bunch of wedding stuff and apparantly while he was organizing through it all he found a blow up penis. So he blew it up lol. And assumes with the pecker smacker. That girls are smacking a stripper with it. Im all for the joint party though. I like spending time with him more than being away. Because he would just be on my mind all night if we are apart

I think one night without each other is not only okay, but NEEDED ;-)

I hope you reconsider and have fun with your girls and trust your FH enough to make smart decisions when you aren't there.

I'm confused (but maybe I haven't had enough coffee).

What would you regret about not having a bachelorette/bachelor's party? Is there something that would happen that would not happen once you're married?

If you want a joint party and that's what works best for you guys, do it up! Otherwise have a fun time with your girls - your FH should trust you when you say there won't be a stripper. And his brothers should respect that he wants to stay home and drink rather than go to a strip club - I understand sometimes that doesn't happen - so again, a joint party sounds fun, too.

Ashley see thats how i feel is its fun for the both of us! If he didnt want all of that extra stuff his men should have respected what he wanted. Instead made it all difficult! I dont know if we will have one.

And i more fear well look back on it and say i wish i had done that party. I doubt we will. Im just seeing all of these party posts which i guess got me thinking!

I'm feeling the same way as you. I really wanted a bachelor/bachelorette party! I love any excuse for a party!

My MOH didn't think to do anything until she saw another friend on FB post pics of a bridal shower and then told me she wanted to plan one for me the weekend before the wedding -.- So, I told her that I thought it was too close to the wedding to have a shower and we could do a bachelor/bachelorette party instead. When she asked I told her we could just get a party bus and head downtown. Well she wanted me to price and find one. Fine. So I did and when I got back to her about it she said well *bridesmaid* said she would just drive and not drink. MOH doesn't drink and there was only us 3 girls so...

I didn't want to be drinking by myself so I just let the ball drop. Still super disappointing though.

I doubt a bach party is something either of you will look back on and regret not having - especially if you're not really in to the typical type of party.

There are a TON of things I think I don't care about and then I get on WW...it goes away after a while, but when you're constantly reading posts it's easy to get caught up in things you normally wouldn't care about.

If it's not you then you wouldn't have fun, no matter how much fun some of the ww ladies are having.

One of the best bachelorette parties I ever went to was a quasi-sleepover. Everyone wore their most modest pajamas, ate oreos, and watched the bride's favorite Disney movie. At first I thought it was pretty silly, but honestly, it was one of the girliest things we've ever done. It was a blast!

My bachelorette party was chill and I loved it. We did a pole dancing class earlier in the day, went out for dinner and went back home, put our PJs on and played bachelorette party games. It was fun and there was not a single thing my FH would have had to worry about.

Coming on here with good news we talked to my MIL just like an hour ago and we are doing a wedding shower at our house his sisters my BMs will set everything up. I told him we could do a cookout and grill hotdogs. We will play games. It will be pretty family oriented but it happens next week!

Great! You will have a blast!

So i re read through all the comments and so many of you are right i typically wouldnt care if i wasnt on this site. Im on here mostly to pass time and get advice but i tend to see a post and think wow that looks fun. But then realize im not into the whole gettup of things. Were really down to home people. I guess thats why we wanted a joint party and didnt much care for the separate parties. We would have been happy eloping.