No babies or toddlers, but kids allowed

Honestly that's kind of weird. I don't know it's sorta like all or none to be kinda thing so it seems it may be better to just not allow kids at all in this case

Setting an age cut off is asking for trouble. What will you do for families that have an 11 year old and a 9 year old? They can bring one child, but not the other? I think you're going to get a lot of push back on this. The general rule is typically all children or no children, or invite in circles. The exclusion to that rule is typically babies who are still nursing. I would plan to have declines if you are excluding babies.

Can your venue provide a baby sitter and room for children? I have seen this set up before, one a church that was a drop off.

Babies are typically the exception to the no-kids rule, too, since many could still be breastfeeding.

If you're not allowing infants, expect a lot of new parents to decline.

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I agree. Also, not trying to rain on your parade but in general, no matter how you word the invites, people with kids may still get offended. Is it not an option to go completely kid free because of the venue?

Not looking for advice on changing kids/no kids, just advice on how to word no babies or toddlers.

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Not weird at all? The contract for our venue literally states no toddlers or babies are allowed. I have younger cousins who are 12 and over who are coming so I can not say no kids at all.

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I wanted it to be kid free but my younger cousins have to be invited and they are 11, 13, and 13

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I would just state it exactly how your venue states it then. I'd rather you say no toddlers or babies over saying 10 and up.

I think you'll have weird responses for any family with a child under 10 and a child over 10. I would probably just not invite families with kids under 10, or don't invite any kids at all.

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You don't. Just invite BY NAME everyone who is invited. If they try to RSVP for anyone else, just follow up and say "unfortunately, the invite was just for you and Mrs. X - hope you can make it".

Don't send an invitation stating who is NOT invited.

If it is truly a venue restriction - put something on the bottom of the invites like "

"Per venue regulations - *insert the exact language your venue uses to restrict kids under 12*

That way, clear that you didnt' set a stupid age cutoff, but your venue has legitimate restrictions.

I figured out what I am doing! Thanks everyone.

You don’t write who isn’t invited, just write the names of those invited.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely this.

For the invites just write the parents names. If you have a website or anyone asks just state exactly what your venue says in their contract and leave it at that.
That being said it is generally considered a faux pas to have an age limit and you'll need to be prepared for a lot of problems. I'm a little surprised the venue even has an age limit as that'd be a huge turn off to many people over the problems it brings planning.
Good luck.

I think she is just asking for wording guys...plus, if you read everything, she said guests already know the rule so 🤷🏾‍♀️

Anyway “guests 10 and up are welcome”, “venue cannot accommodate guests under 10 years old”, or “invited guests 10 years and up are welcome”.