No Alcohol & Ugly Comments

1) simply say that it’s the venue’s rule or 2) maybe they don’t need an invite since they’re more interested in drinking than celebrating your marriage. No need in them attending with a negative attitude.

I would explain the venues rules and also remind/ mention that the day is not about the "party"/ alcohol. Try not to be rude, but I think people constantly forget what a wedding really is. Also, I'd tell them, I understand if they can't make it.

Good luck!

Are people asking if you'll have liquor or are you just telling them that? I wouldn't share that, people will figure it out when they get there. Maybe share it in the FAQs on the wedding website.

Good for you - alcohol is hella expensive. Saves you money anyway ahah but people can be so rude - the point of a wedding is to celebrate and people think it's a party to themselves or something.

I would just let them know it’s the venue rules.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree with this! Whether you serve alcohol or not is your personal choice. Purpose of a wedding is for guests to come to celebrate your marriage, not to come to drink.
I can’t imagine any of our guests saying we’re rude, if we decided not to offer alcohol 😳 but we’re having smaller wedding with 65 of our closest people, who are all excited just to celebrate with us. So I would likely have a tendency not to invite people who are ready to throw mean or insulting comments for lack of alcohol.

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Oh I am with you on this.

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I wish I could get out of some but we are talking family members included here. It is as if they feel free to just say this stuff.

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I was asked what we would be serving and if it would be open or cash bar. These are the exact people that I worry would get bombed and cause a scene. Good idea to share in the FAQs. Adding that now.

I don't know why they have to be nasty about it. They can just decide not to attend. I would tell them simply those are the venue rules and there's nothing to be done about it.

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I agree. It is just so hurtful to think that it is more important than the wedding. I dont want to be hateful and am just trying to find a more tactful way to deal with the repeated comments.

Just simply say "Our venue does not allow liquor on the premises under any circumstances"
And if they keep getting mad then say "you don't have to come" I have used the you don't have to come line on my own parents because I am also not serving alcohol and they back off.
I agree people forget a wedding is about a couple, and does not need liquor. I have gotten so many ugly comments over it on here, and from my family, it's really upsetting. Please don't let people bully you into feeling anything other than great about your venue and your wedding. You will have a beautiful time.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, with family it gets more complicated. I’d let them know that those are venue’s rules & that they are not obligated to come if alcohol is so important for them. And if that doesn’t work, I would do the same & not invite them, if they are being mean & calling you rude just for not serving alcohol 🤷🏻‍♀️

Like pp's have said I would just let them know that these are venue rules and no one is forcing them to come. Doesn't sound like you'd want to celebrate with those types of people anyway who would be rude to you like that.

Placing the blame on the venue (when people ask if there will be alcohol) is a little disingenuous because you chose a venue where alcohol wasn't allowed. I think it's far better to just admit you didn't want alcohol at your event.

That said, try to curtail any discussion of your wedding planning details with those who don't need to know. That limits the unsolicited opinions by default.

It's awful that they would say that and very rude!! are they coming to celebrate you and future hubby, or are they coming to get drunk? how inconsiderate!! I think it's eye-opening to who you've invited. I would simply explain that alcohol is not allowed on the property. If they want to risk getting asked to leave, that is there choice. I would just make sure there would be fee or anything coming back to you guys if they find for example beer bottles in the parking lot or something like that, or fees for security guards.

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I take a bit of an issue with that. It is not true first of all. We chose the venue because of the location and cost. It was the place we wanted and it wasnt important to us either way. There is nothing to admit and that is pretty presumptuous. I am not trying to make excuses or be misleading.

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Thanks Jennifer. Actually the police department is in the same parking lot. LOL

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LOL that should be fun!

It's your choice and the venue rules, you can't do anything about municipality rules! In my experience I have never asked what type of bar someone is having but I did state on my wedding website we have open bar, but mostly to warn guests that bartenders by law are required to cut off intoxicated people at their discretion. You could just mention it on your website! And if people ask, again if they aren't stupid people, municipality rules are rules.