No alcohol for bridal shower

We had a coed shower and had three beer choices, red, white and sparkling wine, plus guests could buy hard alcohol if they wanted.

The last few showers I've been to have had alcohol outright or had cash bars. Honestly, if you'd like a mimosa bar, I'd mention to your mom that you'd really like to have one but obviously understand as hostess she gets final call. I'd think she'd want to give you the shower you'd want! If it's a money thing, despite what etiquette says, I don't think there's anything awful about offering to chip in. I think that depends on your relationship with the person--I know my mom wouldn't be offended, but if yours would, obviously you wouldn't want to offend!

Your post is a mixed bag of stuff. Starting back end first, to be surprised on a day you do not know, with a shower, can be a nasty surprise, and I am happy to hear your mom is not doing that. But otherwise, it is the party host or hostesses, not the guest of honor ( bride) who choose the nature of the party, catered or restaurant , home or in a hall, 10 people or 30 from the potential women I voted to the wedding. They choose food, drink, whether or not to play games. The honoree bride, accepts the party as a gift, or declines it totally, I do not want a shower. ( Or, some other people are planning one for the same guest group.) . . . But it is very bad behavior, too controlling, for a bride to expect anyone giving a party, shower, RD, engagement, or bachelorette, to get their suggestions or approval. It is like rejecting a gift unless someone gets one to meet your conditions, which is rude, rude behavior under any etiquette rules, old or modern. If your mom wants your suggestions, she will ask. Otherwise, as the polite young woman she raised you to be ( she hopes), graciously stay out if it. You can give 20 dinner and dancing or banjo and barbecue parties every year, for friends and family, and serve drinks. But do not expect others to do anything but what they want. . . . Now for the first part: the majority of wedding showers I have been to have no liquor served. About 60 percent no, forty yes. Except if it is a cookout or back yard party, mid day showers rarely have any liquor. When they do it is usually liquers in coffee, or beer or wine if very casual. Evening showers more often have mixed drinks, or beer or wine. But still many don't. My family drinks, and most in my area drink. And heaven knows my old college friends and army friends drink. But more often than not, their showers for brides are non- alcoholic .

...I think there was alcohol at mine, but I don't drink, so I just had water.

If there was alcohol, it was very minimal and also had soda and such.

I also had a mimosa bar at mine aha