No alcohol for bridal shower

I've never been to a bridal shower where there was alcohol, actually the only shower I went to where there was happened to be a baby shower! That one had a mimosa bar haha.

I think it'll be fine

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Okay good thank you! And how funny they had alcohol at a baby shower. That's a party I'd attend lol. Mom-to-be can't drink but hey all the guests can! Haha

I would just relax. I've never been to a bridal shower with alcohol either. I think the whole mimosa bar is newer and trendier. Just be happy someone is planning a shower for you.

We didn't have any alcohol at my shower - it was at a fire hall that allowed alcohol but there was none provided for the guests. but. my sisters did bring some wine for me to sneak to take the edge off of the stress.

I've, actually, only been to one bridal shower with alcohol (almost all the ones I've attended have been in churches). I know we're having at least 2 or 3 showers (one hosted by my mom's friends and one by FMIL's friends). I think two of the showers will be held in a church so neither of them will have alcohol. Bridal showers are still fun without alcohol! I love the punch and sweets that are served and am fine without alcohol.

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That's a good idea. haha Literally maybe I'll just get the date out of her so I can pregame haha. I am just stressed. I don't like all the focus on me and don't want to feel like people are judging the party.

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Okay I wasn't sure if it was common or uncommon! Thanks! I need a little pregame just because I get anxious and stressed when all the attention is on me. Even going to other people's showers as a bridesmaid where I wrote the gifts down or took the bows I felt anxious since everyone was looking up front.

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I get the same way - I hate being the center of attention and being social so it was nice to have something to bring me out of my shell. But I think what definitely helped me is that I had a wedding shower so I had my FH by my side to make me way more comfortable.

Nobody will be judging the party - if they are then who cares? Any time I have ever been to a bridal shower or any party thrown for someone I look around and just think about how much time and effort the person who threw the party spent to make it perfect for their loved one. That should be literally the last thing on your mind. Just stay positive and remember that she didn't have to throw you a bridal shower and I am sure she is working to make it as special and as perfect as she can for you.

A fire hall wasn't my most desirable place for a shower but ultimately it wasn't my choice because the party was being thrown for me. But my sisters did such a great job at decorating that it didn't even look like a fire hall when they were done.

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Good to know! This is helpful. I am sure the decorations will spruce it up just like you said. Thank you!!

I've never been to a bridal shower with alcohol either so that was never a thought in my mind. Mine is also in a church so it couldn't happen either way lol. I wouldn't let it bother you though. I bet you have so many other wedding details to take care of so let your mom and your bridal party take care of the shower. As PP have said just relax and enjoy the fact that those around you care so much to throw you a shower! It will be great no matter where it is!

There were a couple bottles of wine at my shower but I don't think anyone even really drank that much.

I've never been to a shower with alcohol. If it's early enough for brunch they might just be unable to serve alcohol before a certain hour of the day, some cities and towns have regulations on that.
I wouldn't want alcohol at my bridal shower as they tend to be more family oriented, but to each their own.

I think it's fine not to have liquor, not a big deal! Mine had wine & champagne, but it isn't required. If it's important to you, I think your mom should probably find a venue that allows it.

My sister who was my MOH planned my shower and we didn't have any alcohol just kept it casual. The day of the wedding she did ask me if she can make mimosas for the breakfast I hosted as we did hair and make-up, I definitely didn't turn that down! Lol

While almost every shower I have been to has had alcohol, I requested that we not have any at mine. It can be big added cost on those hosting the shower and I don't feel that many of my shower attendees would want to drink. In one of the weddings I was a bridesmaid in, we had a margarita bar for the shower. We had to buy a lot of stuff because there were almost 100 guests, and I would say only about 10 people had a drink. Totally not worth it.

I'm sure no one will mind, especially if your party is during the day. In my experience showers can go either way, some have nice cocktails or mimosas but some are dry. I'd try not to worry and just focus on getting excited about the party! When will it be?

All the showers I've been to haven't had alcohol, and mine will be dry as well. I definitely wouldn't worry about it!

We're not allowed to have alcohol at my shower either. We're renting a space from one of our county's rec centers and they have a strict drug/alcohol-free campus policy which I understand.

It sounds like your mom is planning the shower she wants, not the one you were hoping for. In my area, alcohol is always served/available at bridal showers. Mimosas are the common thing, but I've also attended quite a few that had Sangria as the main alcoholic beverage. Fruity and delicious!!

Either way, I think your mom should be trying harder to give you what you want for your shower. Maybe one of the BMs or a relative could put a bug in her ear?

We are having a wedding shower (couples shower) in stead and there won't be alcohol. Didn't even think it was strange not to. I have friends who drink they know I don't (the smell gives me a headache).