Nightmare Guests

It can definitely be frustrating when guests assume they can bring a plus one without confirming beforehand. In such situations, it's important to handle it tactfully but firmly. You can politely explain that the event is planned for the confirmed guest list only and kindly ask them to respect that in the future. It's also helpful to have a clear RSVP policy for future events to avoid similar misunderstandings.

I would have put In the invitations whatever name is on the invite is only one allowed to come no plus ones. That’s what I’m going to do cause I don’t want strangers in my wedding.

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Oh no!! Yeah girl at that point id start UNINVITING lol cause aint no way I'm getting demands for MY wedding. Im so sorry youre going through this. I understand you want everyone there but honestly what narrowed it down for me and my man was we really had to take a step back and look to who we REALLY want there and who is REALLY present in our lives. We are Samoan and both come from big Polynesian families and we put our count at 150. It was a really hard decision to make but at the end of the day, we are paying for the wedding and want a say in our wedding plans. Was our family offended by this? of course lol BUT they understood and respected our decision. Weddings are complicated when it comes to the guest list and people respecting the couples wishes. Ive been to plenty weddings where people have just shown up and I vowed that I wouldnt allow it at ours. Its up to you and your fiance to really enforce it to your wedding planner, security, family, guests, that yall are not playing when it comes to your invite list. If they have a problem with it, say what we said.. "then dont come". LOL simple. Yes you may lose some family or friends but at the end of the day ITS YOUR DAY! It is sad but you really start to see peoples true colors. Enforce your guest list at the entrance of your venue. Make sure they RSVP and make that list girl. If theyre not on the list, they dont get in. Hope this helps!

View Quoted Comment Agree with these. There is nothing else you can do within the bounds of politeness. Are partners invited by name or not? If they are not, then be prepared for guests to decline.

Ugh, unexpected plus ones are the worst for event planning! What worked for a friend was clearly stating the RSVP deadline and guest limit on the invite. At the door, they politely told any uninvited guests that walk-ins can't be accommodated due to space. If the invited person confirmed they weren't attending, their "guest" was welcomed in their place. You can't control what others say, but being consistent about the guest list prevents hurt feelings or chaos on the big day. The priorities are making sure invited folks have a spot, and smooth sailing for the hosts! With clear boundaries up front hopefully most people will understand.

Security and a list at the door. Also let it be known on the invite what is expected and allowed. But in a nice way.

View Quoted Comment WOW...JUST WOW!!! This is so much unnecessary stress that you definitely don't need! It's not like you're not already stressed out as is. But you did make a point as in this is YOUR WEDDING that YOU'RE paying for. It simply sounds that your guest list needs to be adjusted because you definitely don't want all this guest list, seating chart, RSVP, pre-wedding drama brought into the ceremony & reception on YOUR wedding day. You should be happy & excited & stressed for all the right obvious reasons..... this is all unnecessary. I'm so sorry you're going through this & I hope it works out in yout favor cuz no bride should have to deal with these types of chaos.

MIL decided she needed to invite random "Friends" (LITERALLY people from Costco who provide samples!!!), to our wedding because they know so much about us & she's already told them about the wedding. We told her if she invites anyone & the actually show up, she will leave with them or she can give up her seat for them ... and she can leave alone. There's no world where inviting people on your own to a wedding that's not your own, is ever acceptable. I'm so sorry people don't have better manners.