Night of the wedding..

We are staying at the Hotel we are having our reception in the night of the wedding... They included in our wedding package a concierge level room for the bride and groom so we will be fully taking advantage of that!!! Even if we didnt have the option from the Hotel included we would STILL not be going home that night... its your wedding night, if you can afford to splurge a little I say go for it and treat yourselves to a night out...

Hi there.....i think you guys should stay in a hotel! i mean if you guys already live together then yea i totally agree with you. if you did what he wants to do to stay at a hotel then yea it would take the fun and magic out of it. so yea id say splurge for one night and just go for it. i mean you only get married once.......as for what me and my hubby to be are doing we are staying in a hotel after the weddingand then flying at 630 in the am, but need to be at the airport like two hours early bc of stupd security. which is no biggie for us getting up early anyway bc we both do. well he does for work, but i like to make sure he has a alunch in the am everyday and also we do our breakfast/morning ritual.

I'll take it even a step furthur....we live right across the street from our ceremony/reception site. I'm talking literally! We live together and we will still be getting the fanciest wedding suite they have in town. Its the first night of your wedding. Make it magical! While you may be going on a honeymoon, that wont be your FIRST night. If you have no choice but to go home, make sure it is all romanced-up with candles and whatever else will get you in the mood. -Purchase new satin sheets and just have fun with it!!

Go for it!! We are doing the same thing we already live together and our house is only about 20 min away from the reception site but we have several out of town guests that will be comming in and we are going to be with them and stay at the hotel and have a going away breakfast! JUST SPLURGE

Yes - stay at a hotel!!! It's your wedding night and it's a big deal!! My FH and I live together. I want to make him spend the night before in a hotel so we won't even spend that night together (but I'm waivering on that - I hate being apart from him!). Most of our guests are spending the night in a hotel so we're planning on staying there and having brunch with everyone the next morning. If you can afford it, go for it!!

I want to stay at a hotel to. We literally live 5 minutes away from the hotel we are getting married at. Be are broke, there rooms are only 45$ so we might go with that, but I think hilton gives you one night free when you buy one if it is your wedding night/honeymoon... don't quote me though because I am not sure

We are in a similar situation. He doesn't live here yet, but will be moving in within a few weeks of the wedding because his lease on his apt. is up that month and he needs to get out. The biggest problem with staying here on our wedding night is that my mom is staying with us and my kids will also be here that night! I wouldn't mind spending out wedding night at home, but not with mom and the kids here! I haven't figured out where we will stay yet, but it will NOT be here in my house!

We do plan to come back to the house in the morning for brunch with the family. My mom has already volunteered to help organize it, and both of my BIL's love to cook and will surely help also. We will have brunch, open gifts, and say good-bye to everyone, then leave to board our cruise in the early afternoon!

We are going to a hotel...I wanted to stay at home but because we are going to have so much family at the house we both thought it would better to get a room!

If you can swing it, just say in the hotel! My FH and I live about 20 min away from our site (a hotel). About 90% of our guests are from out of town and we expect them all to stay at that hotel. My FH's parents, grandfather, brother and another groomsman (not to mention FH's parents' 2 small dogs *rolls eyes* dont ask), however, plan to stay in our 2 bdrm apt for the two nights before and the night of the wedding because they can't afford the/a hotel. Therefore, staying at home the night of is out!!! This is also why I, personally, will be staying at the hotel with my bridal party for the two nights before the big day, lol (FH can sleep at home w/his fam). It will definitely make things less stressfull for me, plus absence makes the heart grow fonder, right! The night of the wedding we plan to stay at another hotel that is closer to the airport. Why not find a cozy, romantic yet inexpensive hotel near your honeymoon departure point to make the next morning's travel less stressfull?!

You don't sound ridiculous at all. My FH and I live together and I wouldn't want to come home. There are too many distractions... animals and bills and laundry and cleaning. I feel like going home the night of our wedding would definitely take away from the magic and we'd just settle back into our routine for the night. Save a little money in your budget for a decent hotel room for the night...preferably one with room service because every bride and groom I know have been starving after their wedding!

We're having a destination wedding so we are staying at the wedding site with our guests for a long weekend and then going straight to our honeymoon.

Do you have many out of town guests coming? If I book 25 rooms in my hotel I get the bridal suite free for the night!!!

I would say if you can swing it ....stay at the hotel.

I am with you. You should get the hotel. I am in almost the same situation. We don't live together yet, but my FH wants to save money and stay at home on the wedding night. It gets better than that...after we come home from the wedding, he wants to have his parents deliver the gifts to our house! UGH! Talk about no romance.

I would agree with everyone here and say if you can afford it, try and go for the hotel room. Even if it isn't the nicest room, most places will still decorate it for you for your honeymoon. If the hotel ends up not being an option, I would say have a very good friend or someone you know would do a good job full out decorate your apartment for you. This way you still have a little bit of the surprise even though youre still coming back to your apartment.

It looks like I might be the minority here...but I actually requested to go back home after the wedding. However, we are in a different boat. My fiance and I have never lived together and it will be our first night together in our new home. My bridesmaids are decorating our room with candles, wine, and petals.

The reason I wanted it this way is because we have a very early flight to Montego Bay the next morning. I figured getting ready in the morning would be far easier in my own home. I won't have to be completely packed and ready to go before the wedding either. . .all of my last minute items can be tossed into the suitcase the morning of the flight.

I can definitely see where you are coming from, especially since you already live together! But if you end up opting to go home that night, you won't be the only one!

My friend is going to be going home afterwards as well, my suggestion to her was to buy something special that night for their room (like silk sheets and candles) just don't go home to the same bed you do every night before then. Put rosepetals and flowers everywhere.. etc.

I understand where your fiance is coming from, but this is suppose to be the most special night of your lives. You have fun at home all the time. Get a hotel room and enjoy the most wonderful, romantic time of your lives. Good Luck!

I can relate to FutureMrsMinch. We are going to our house because it will be our first night in our home since we don't live together. I guess it would be different if we already lived together. Plus, we will leave the next morning for our honeymoon and stay in a hotel. It's all about your budget! If you can get a hotel, do it! If not, make the best of your home (candles, dim the lights, etc...) Hotel or home....you will be in the arms of the one you love!!!

We live togther and we stayed in a hotel b/c our wedding was far from our house that and like you said it would take the magic away so you staying in hotel is fine

We are going to do a hotel that night for a few reason but mainly I felt like if we went home we would get caught up in all the home stuff (Im completely OCD and would prob start cleaning lol) Plus we arent taking a honeymoon for a few months because we are moving 2 weeks after our wedding so it would be too hectic. Have some fun hotel rooms arent that expensive and you might find a deal.

We live together and we are going to stay at a cute B&B. His family is driving out to our wedding and staying with us so i didn't want my wedding night to come home and have his family there. It will be nice because we can wake up and have breakfest before going over to my moms to do a after wedding BBQ.