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Night before Wedding

VICTORIA, on June 27, 2020 at 6:38 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11

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Hey girls! I had a quick question regarding the night before the wedding! Eek!

FH and I already know we will NOT be spending the night together. I reserved rooms at two different hotels. I'll be booking our "honeymoon suite" at Hotel A (unless I find another one I like better prior to booking).

I plan to stay at Hotel A the night before (in the same suite that will be the honeymoon suite- unless staff can move my belongings since our wedding starts at 11am). I believe my BMs will be staying with me, and I may book another room because we can't all fit in one!

Would you recommend that FH stay at Hotel B the night before, with his GM, so there is no chance of us running into each other? Or, do you think it isn't a HUGE deal if we happen to pass each other the afternoon/evening before and morning of?

I guess it all depends on how "superstitious" you are, and maybe I'm overthinking this (as usual)- but I wanted some others input.

PS- FHs son (my step son) is our ring bearer. FH has HORRIBLE time management. Would it be weird for him to stay with me the night before, given that he's on the "groom's side" of the wedding party? The flower girl is also staying with me (her mom is a BM). FH wouldn't mind either way, just seeing what your thoughts are.

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Latest activity by Katharine, on June 29, 2020 at 10:25 AM

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Margaret · on June 27, 2020 at 6:46 PM
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If it’s a multiple level hotel I’d just ask the hotel for rooms on separate levels. Especially if you’re only there to sleep and get ready.
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Jessica · on June 27, 2020 at 6:59 PM
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We rented a vacation rental for us and our bridal party for the weekend of the wedding. Since we’re getting married at sunrise, we’ll all be in bed early, probably not long after the rehearsal dinner. I guess I’m not particularly superstitious. I agree with the PP to ask for different floors, I don’t think it’s really necessary to stay at different hotels.
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Samantha · on June 27, 2020 at 7:01 PM
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The superstition is actually 'the groom shouldn't see the bride in her wedding dress before the wedding'. So if you are superstitious or just for the fun, as long as he doesn't see you dressed up it's fine. 😊
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Melle · on June 27, 2020 at 8:46 PM
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I think it’s fine to be in same hotel
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VICTORIA · on June 27, 2020 at 10:06 PM
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I honestly hadn't thought about that. haha. Thank you!
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VICTORIA · on June 27, 2020 at 10:06 PM
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Thank you! Like I said, I think I'm probably just overthinking it!
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Gen · on June 27, 2020 at 11:47 PM
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I don’t think there’s an issue with running into him the day before... my husband and I were together all day and evening the day before our wedding! We separated before we went to sleep, and then didn’t see each other again until it was down the aisle.

He slept at home actually while I slept at the hotel. But then he arrived at the same hotel (just down the hall, actually) to get ready in his best man’s room. We didn’t run into each other because we had discussed that I wouldn’t be leaving the room all morning until the wedding was about to start! If I needed something, a bridesmaid got it for me.
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Elizabeth · on June 28, 2020 at 1:53 PM
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We'll be in the same mansion, but different rooms. We're also doing the rehearsal dinner that night, so we'll see each other for most of the night. We aren't superstitious though; we're only staying separate for a bit of fun and to build suspense.
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Alex · on June 29, 2020 at 10:10 AM
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So I am normally fairly superstitious, but I personally don't like this tradition of staying apart and have decided I don't care to follow it.
My FH and I have lived together for nearly 2 years and I sleep better when he is next to me, so we will be spending the whole weekend together in our honeymoon suite.

If it is important to you, I think you will be fine in the same hotel, if you are on different floors.
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Kimberly · on June 29, 2020 at 10:18 AM
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Ask FH what he wants to do since it’s him you’re making plans for.
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Katharine · on June 29, 2020 at 10:25 AM
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It's definitely completely up to your personal preference.
FH and I live together and are getting married in a tiny elopement ceremony this year instead of our originally planned wedding (which has been postponed to next year). We are not planning to do anything more than saving my dress to put on at the chapel because he doesn't want to see it, or me in it, until I walk down the aisle. Even with our original plan, we planned to stay together the night before and then just get ready in separate spaces.
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