Nieces and nephews attending wedding

Sounds like the girl's mom needs to ask someone she trusts to watch her child. It can be somewhere near by the venue if possible. Or if your venue is in a hotel then it can be in one of the hotel rooms. It's unfair that his niece gets to come if shes not in the wedding simply bc her parents are overprotective.

My thoughts are anyone invited to any part of a wedding should be invited to the whole wedding. If you don’t want your niece there for the party part, she just shouldn’t be invited to any of the wedding.

We are having a no kids wedding, with the exception of our immediate nieces/nephews. It’s a total of 5 kids and we incorporated them all into the wedding party (flower girls/ring bearers). I wanted them to be involved and also, people won’t get butthurt that way.

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I don’t think it’s okay to invite anyone to just part of your wedding, even a child. I also think it’s rude to invite one niece or nephew and not the rest and is sure to hurt some feelings.

Well taking into account others opinions people are going to have their opinions. I know my best friend had just her niece and daughters as the only kids in the wedding and they were apart of the wedding party too. They were there for the reception though but other people could not bring their kids. I think that is normal. I would say leave it up to them but from what you said, they are protective so they may not want to find a sitter. You can ask them what they think but ultimately let them make the decision. What you do with your son is your business of course because he is your son. Are these kids apart of the ceremony?

If FH’s niece isn’t part of the wedding party then she shouldn’t be invited if your nephews aren’t also invited. It’s fine to allow certain kids to be invited but they all need to be on the same level. Example: we have our 3 kids in our wedding (9 yo, & 2 17 yo) and we are inviting our families small children. We are not inviting friends’ children however. Our wedding is very small with only about 38 invited, 3 of them children in addition to our children. If we included our 3 friends’ kids we would add 9 children to the guest list and would have to remove 9 adult family members.
So if you want FH’s niece to be invited I agree you also need to include your nephews and any other nieces and nephews of you and FH. You would not need to include cousins and friends’ kids though. If you aren’t inviting nephews then niece shouldn’t be invited either. Does that make sense?

Thank you ladies! I'm honestly fine with just those kids to be there. We first were going to have like three flower girls and my three nephews but my fiancé and maid of honor were like no don't have kids at the wedding except my son and his niece because they're little. But then it made me feel upset about my nephews and excluding them and I did not want to bring it up to my mom yet until I figured it out. And my son could never stay up until 10pm without throwing a tantrum and I wanted to make sure he got home safe so I arranged something. So I will definitely talk with everyone about this I just wanted to get some other opinions first. Thank you all so much!

We're having only our neices and nephews also. It'd be too weird to not allow them. They're such a big part of our lives and actually we have great neices n nephews too but it's a no kids wedding. Only kids are the ones in the ceremony an 8 yr old, an 11 yr old, my son a 15 yr old, and a to be determined flower girl. Other than the reception party which is what I was worried before now there is covid. Hope they will understand.

What is the reason the niece is even invited? Is she in the wedding?

I would only invite children that are going to be part of the wedding as like flower girl or ring bearer. My husband's two nieces and two nephews attended our wedding because they were in the wedding, but otherwise children weren't invited. I definitely think you could upset people if you allow some children,but not others.

View Quoted Comment She’s our flower girl and my son is the ring bearer. I would have to think of something for my nephews to be included

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I don’t actually think your mom and brother be upset with you. Technically you told your in laws Not to bring her. You will find out day of if they listened or not. If they didn’t listen that’s their problem, not yours. Continue on with your party. Get wild, get drunk, have fun! They’ll leave when they feel uncomfortable and realize they really should have just listened to you in the first place.
In the meantime, continue insisting that this is an adult only wedding and their one job is to figure what to do with their child but also understand that leaving your kid with someone else is huge. If they don’t normally get a sitter for the child and they do it this time, they’re not even going to relax or have much fun anyway because they’ll be worried about her safety all evening.

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His niece is the flower girl and my son is the ring bearer. I would need to find a special way to include my nephews