Kristen
Dedicated November 2019

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Kristen, on August 15, 2019 at 12:13 PM Posted in Planning 0 22
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I just had to do something I hope no one has to o through. I had to kick my bridesmaid out. She has been so stressful and I couldn’t take it anymore. She cancels on EVERYTHING. So I finally had enough. She is blaming me and shaming me. She is the reason my fiancé and I met and that’s one reason I kept her in for so long. But I finally kicked her out and I feel so much better. It was definitely the right thing to do. All
my girls and myself feel so much better! Thank goodness!!

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  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    I'm sure you did the right thing! Your day should have you supported by the people in your bridal party, and if they aren't supportive they have no reason to be there! Good for you! I kicked one out early on in the process. Was hard but I felt better too

  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
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    It was so hard! My fiancé has been telling me to since day one pretty much. I finally had it and had three other people tell me to do so. So I finally did it!
  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Good for you! For me the one that had to go was HIS daughter! She's 32 and still acts like a brat. She caused a ton of drama and to be honest I never wanted her in the wedding, but I was trying make my guy happy. He was the one who said she had to go.

  • Hannah
    Devoted September 2019
    Hannah ·

    How did you do it?

  • Meaghan
    Savvy June 2020
    Meaghan ·

    Good for you! If you feel like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders, you know you did the right thing!

  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
    Only you know if it was the right thing or not. It sounds like the relief it has given you tells you it was the right thing.
  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
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    She has been giving me problems since like day one. My man has been friends with her and her husband for years. They kind of brought us together and that’s why I kept her in it for so long. I asked her due to the time her husband and mine where pretty close. We kind of drifted apart and when it came to making arrangements for the wedding she would just cancel the day before. My bridal shower is this Saturday and she canceled due to her not getting a invite. My mom and maid of honor had a group chat with all the bridesmaids and aunts to discuss this weekend. None of my girls got personal invites. They all said they knew the date, time, and place. That cut it for me. I was so done. She then posted in the group chat after I contacted her personally and threw a huge fight and was bashing all my girls, mom and my aunts. I was finally over it and blocked her due to this. She took it way out of proportion. I feel so much better. All of my girls Including my new ones have their dresses and it didn’t take them long to order it. I’m so much more happy and less stressful.
  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
    Good for you to get rid of the negativity, not everyone can do that.
  • Monique
    Rockstar December 2019
    Monique ·
    My fh may do this with a groomsman. ☹️ He has fallen off the face of the earth won’t respond to my fh and won’t participate with anything. While I hope He doesn’t the guy is just stressing my fh out and that’s not a good situation. It’s worse because he’s family and this should not be an issue at all.
  • Happiness
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    Happiness ·
    Great move for everyone🥂
    You are such a responsible and considerate bride. As adults, we choose people that would sail with us smoothly and rock our boat in a crazy happy way! Go girl! 🤸🏻‍♀️
  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
    She has been texting me all
    morning. About five text in and I decided to just quit replying. Not worth my time anymore
  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
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    Oh trust me it was hard. But my new bridesmaid I told her we needed to order her dress ASAP (wedding is in 3 months) and she legit came to my work and we Measured her and sent it in. We are ordering of Azazie! I bumped her up from personal attendant. Next my new attendant already bought her dress! I just asked her yesterday as well. I feel so much more positivity and so much less stress. Now I’m just getting pissed with her because she is blaming me for stupid stuff. And won’t stop texting me.
  • Amber
    VIP February 2020
    Amber ·

    I really hope I won't have to do this with my oldest sister. She didn't seem excited at all when I asked her to be my Matron of Honor (my other sister is my Maid of Honor), and that kinda bummed me out. She isn't the cheeriest person in the world and my mom is worried she'll rain on my parade through this whole process. So glad that your situation has worked out for the better! This is YOUR day!

  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
    It is kind of difficult and hard to do! But I am so glad that I did. I feel so much better and I figured it needed to be done. If it makes your day better and you stress level better I say do
    it. You won’t regret it.
  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
    Cassi ·

    I pretty much had to do this as well. She just ignored me for months any time I asked her to hangout as friends, or do wedding stuff or get our kids together she would just ignore me. Three months. I finally called her out on it and told her she was out and bam she all of a sudden had response. It sucks but sometimes needs to be done.

  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
    Oh my god same! We have a Snapchat group chat and she would never reply to anything. She started messaging me about a bachelorette party before even purchasing her dress! She kept insisting on a party bus. I’m not that type! I can’t really drink due to my meds! I feel like if I made a effort in the chat that everyone else should
    too.
  • Natalie
    Savvy August 2019
    Natalie ·

    Oh my! I am legit going through this right now. But my BM was my college roommate. We've been best friends for 12 years but the past few we've drifted. We're adults (both 30) so I figured that is natural.

    Well.... this week she tells me our friendship has caused her severe anxiety and doesn't know if we can be friends in the future for the sake of her health. Um WHAT?! This was news to me! We've literally hung out twice in the last year even though she only lives ten min away. She has told me twice "I'll still be in your wedding but only if you want me".... not "I want to be there for you"

    Apparently she has felt this what for the last THREE years. But when I asked her to be a BM 6 months ago, she excitedly said yes. My wedding is NEXT WEEKEND.

    I am so lost and so pissed. I haven't kicked her out but I do wish she would just step down. My wedding party will be un-even but I'd rather have that than have her around on my one special day.

  • Ashley
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    Ashley ·
    One of my best Friends had to do that to one of her bridesmaids. And it all went down the night of her bachelorette party. It was a hot mess!
  • Casandra
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    Casandra ·

    That really sucks - but friends need to remember the day is about you and need to give you their 1000% support and not make empty promises! I hope your planning and day goes according to plan.


    I'm opting out of bridesmaids/Fiance says no groomsmen either, just having family because they are already stressful enough lol

  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
    Kristen ·
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    Omg no way! That’s freaking sucks!! Why didn’t she have the balls to tell you that along time ago! Makes no sense! I’m so sorry! Hope you wedding goes smoothly and stress free! Congratulations

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