Newly Pregnant Bridesmaid!

Infants, especially those that are nursing, are typically the exception to the "no children" rule. Of course it's your wedding and you're allowed to say no, but that's likely going to impact her attendance at your wedding entirely, not just as a bridesmaid. Is it really more important that her infant isn't there, than it is that she is? As far as pre-wedding events, it's not mandatory that she attends them, so that shouldn't be a factor.

In all honesty, I think that you can simply explain that you understand if she says "no", or isn't able to attend some of the events. I can't imagine that she will know how she will feel with a 5 month old if she is only 2 months along right now, that also goes for a weekend bachelorette party, showers, etc, especially since I imagine they have not even started planning them yet. I think that you should just let her know that you will be a supportive friend, and that you will understand if/when things need to change along the way.

I think it’s fine to ask her and then tell her the situation and say it’s ok if she can’t do it due to that, you understand.

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Wow...giving me a lot to think about. I will just have to sit down with her and see how she feels about it. Thanks for the perspective

I'm getting married in October and one of my BM's is due next month. She has said she'll make it to as much stuff as she can but that it really depends on baby. So she'll be in the wedding (as well as her hubby) and will attend extra events if she can. She is bringing her baby to the wedding but has made it clear they will leave early if baby is fussy. If you're okay with it, I would just ask her if she thinks she is up for it too, and just know that she may not be as available as your other BMs.

I've never heard of infants being the exception to the "no children" rule. But def leave the decision up to her! If she wants to still partake in events that's good, but if not that's fine too! I think at 5 months old, things will work out!

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Very true. And at least we'll have months in between her having the baby and the wedding that way she has time if she feels it will be too overwhelming moving forward.

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Thanks for this! I feel like I'm working myself up for something I can literally just ask her lol.

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I would hate to have one of my girls miss out on my big day because of a big event in her life. I'm also limited kids at my wedding but babies gotta eat so if I want mom there, I have to allow baby as well (in my opinion).

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! And it's okay! Go with your gut feeling!

I have a BM that's pregnant. I actually had two, but one had her baby last week. Both agreed to be in my wedding with no problems. We're close friends so I knew that would if they could. I'm allowing children at my wedding though.

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I think I'll make the exception for her baby because she's a BM and I really want her there. Thanks for the relief!