Newly engaged!

What is the reason for eloping before your celebration with your friends and family?

View Quoted Comment We want to have time to plan a nice wedding, but would like to be married sooner than that, mainly because I’ve been having a lot of health issues, so insurance and stuff. Logistically it makes sense to be married and also have a nice big wedding at a later date.

Just explain that to your family, your health is most important so they should be supportive.

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Unfortunately, they won’t be. My mom isn’t at all that thrilled that I’m engaged period. But that’s neither here nor there, since I’m happier than I’ve been in forever!!!

Congrats! Good luck not sure. I wanted to go to vegas but my groom wanted the big wedding. My family was for vegas his family not so much.... But oh well here we are with the big wedding

View Quoted Comment Oh well honey they can come or not come. Trust me don’t sweat anyone but your man

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Thank you!

Her family is definitely more into the wedding than my family is...and my family would be very disappointed without a big(ish) wedding, but also annoyed that I got married before the date we have “advertised.”

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My fiancée and I both want to elope AND have a formal wedding. The elopement would be just for me and her, and the big wedding, well, for everyone. Us, and our families. And since her family is probably going to foot the bulk of the bill for the more formal wedding, I can’t complain too much.

We’re going on vacation in the Poconos next month, and are thinking that we might try to get married when we’re there.

View Quoted Comment Sounds good, if her family is supportive then they will be part of your family. Focus on their love and support and enjoy every minute of it. I’m in a very similar boat

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Her family likes me more than my own family likes me. Go figure. I definitely feel like they’ve already accepted me as their DIL and I have started thinking of them as my in-laws.

Congrats. I did and I feel it wasn't the right way i went about it bc I honeslty didn't let any know but me and him. My mom was heart broken. However i lost my das i felt i couldn't do it without him. Now here we are doing it again a big wedding. I feel if you include important ppl you guys want youll habe no regrets

View Quoted Comment Her parents know that we want to elope, mine don’t...and mine would be very upset if they knew. But if awhile after the fact we told them it wouldn’t be such a big deal I think. It’s mostly because my fiancée and I haven’t been together very long, and my mom doesn’t even really like that I got engaged as fast as I did. But as I said above, health concerns and insurance are the primary reasons to get married so soon and do a big wedding later, when we’ve had time to plan and whatnot.

View Quoted Comment That's simialr to my situation we got engaged to fast ...and my mom was against it...yea that's true you can do it later

View Quoted Comment I don’t think we got engaged too fast. Most people probably would think it was too fast, but it worked for us. We started dating and almost immediately essentially started living together (we each have our own place but we’re together at one or the others all the time), and we haven’t looked back!

View Quoted Comment May I ask how long

View Quoted Comment A month...which in the LGBTQ+ 🏳️‍🌈 world is equivalent to about 6 months in the heterosexual world.