Newborn at the wedding??!

I say let her bring him. Like the rest have said, it'll probably be so small and sleep most of the time. Let her know where the closest exit is, and maybe a washroom with a change table, but other than that, you probably wont even notice.

We were going to have a child-free wedding, but we have 3 important people in our lives get pregnant this year, so in order for them to come, we had to be more flexible.

@StitchingBride - unless the baby has health issues, the baby will be fine at the wedding. I'm not sure why you would be so worried?

Like the others said, new borns, for the most part are easy and sleep all the time. They're also not as loud as a baby that's a few months old or older.

I like the suggestion of letting the mother know about what the officiant will do if the baby starts to cry. That's a great idea!

Edit - spelling.

And truthfully the mom and baby will most likely sneak out long before the reception is over.

In my medical opinion, two weeks is way too early to be around a crowd of that size but I've also seen new babies in Walmart so clearly ppl are brave. That being said it will likely sleep or not cry loud enough to ruin the ceremony so if you really want them there, I understand. If it was my child, I'd probably leave them with her husband or his parents but that's just me. My sis will have a 10 month old at the time of our wedding and she expects him to be there for both ceremony and reception but we're still working on how to tell her nope. She's my MOH so she'll be standing with me, I don't want my parents to miss my ceremony, she's saying her boyfriend doesn't want to come, and I'm not inviting his family. This conversation will be interesting when I get around to it, lol.

We are having a bunch of FH's friends with babies 6 months and younger. We are reserving a spot for babies at the end of the seating, so that if they start to cry the moms can make a quick exit with them. But like everyone else has said, it is more likely that little infants will be quiet. The trouble makers are the ones that can talk and run!

I wouldn't really bring up the "will the germs affect the baby" question. It may make her feel unwanted, or like you are trying to say you don't want her baby there, but don't have the courage to come out and say it. I would either say yes or no, and go with that, but don't pussy foot around.

I'm sure it will be fine. I doubt she will want to leave the baby with a sitter with it being that young and if the baby cries, I'm sure she will take the baby out until the baby is done crying. You don't want to make your FSIL feel unwelcome at the wedding because of her newborn.

A baby that young still has a lot of immunity from the mother, particularly if she is nursing. And as others have said, it may well sleep through the ceremony. If the mother has a place to take it just in case it starts crying, you should be fine.

Kid-free weddings are all very well if everyone is local and can get a babysitter. Or if the people who couldn't come without the baby are people you wouldn't mind missing. But when a close relative has a baby who can't be left at home with a babysitter, you're asking for hard feelings if you effectively prevent the parents from being there by barring the baby.

JenniferandRick that's a big part of my point. at two weeks you don't really know the child well enough to know all that is going on with it yet. though I'm sure the baby has been examined and all, problems the baby may not been known so early.

even if the baby didn't have medical issues, just about everyone I know in the medical field has said that their opinion is that 2 weeks is a little too early for as many people that a wedding can have.

either way, it sounds like she doesn't want the baby there anyhow- so I vote for no newborn baby at a wedding myself.

Personally I feel 2 weeks is too young to be out with that many people and I know I personally wouldn't want to attend a function that is geared towards adults with a baby in tow, but that's just me.

Are you having an adults only wedding? If yes, then kindly remind your FSIL of this. Otherwise, I also like the suggestion of letting her know the officiant will pause the ceremony if the baby becomes disruptive, or let her know of any private rooms available at either location if she needs some privacy with the baby.

One of my bridesmaids is pregnant and she mentioned leaving the baby at home with her parents. To which I replied your parents are invited and we will have a seat for your baby unless you dont want to bring it. We are inviting a lot of kids... I really think the youngest ones wont be the problem. For the older ones we will have activity bags. In the end I dont think Ill notice if someones kid throws a fit at the wedding. Ill be distracted by FH

My mom took me to the mall when I was a week old. I'm still alive. The baby will survive (assuming there are no other medical conditions) and will likely sleep the whole time. No way I'd leave my two week old baby with anyone else!

I think that the newborn will most likely be sleep during the wedding. I think you're fine. Don't stress it

Newborn shouldn't be around so many people. Plus everyone will be dancing and drinking. not a good idea. You are not a bridezilla