New step mom

Typically the dance is for the groom and his mom. Talk to your fiance and see what he plans to do. Many couples skip the parent dances.

The mother/son dance is for the groom and his mom. It’s not typical to open it to anyone else. If you’re having it, I would just leave it at that. Definitely talk to your fiancé about his plans for that and for what your stepson may or may not be comfortable with before mentioning it to your stepson.

Every blended family is different. However, being in a blended family myself, I wouldn’t do it. I honestly feel like it’s crossing a boundary. But like I said, every blended family is different! Do you get along with his bio mom? I would ask her out of respect and then present it to your step/bonus son. Typically, this is for the groom and his mother but you can make it what you want. Maybe have your DJ present it as you officially becoming his step/bonus mom?

I have never seen where the parent dances become open. Usually they are just for the bride to dance with her dad and the groom to dance with his mom.

I think if you want to, rules are out the window during all this! But typically that is for the groom and his mother.

Maybe speak with FH about it. guess it depends on many factors that only you 2 would know. buttttt I have seen like during the vows how the spouse makes vows also to the stepkids. so cute lol

I agree with others that the mother-son dance is usually between the G & MOG. But more than that, I think doing anything with your soon-to-be stepson should depend on what your relationship is, how old he is, how well he's adjusting to the upcoming marriage, and the dynamics with his birth mother, if she's in the picture. Each family defines and adjusts to new stepparent relationships differently. If your fiance thinks this is a good idea and the boy sees you as a mother figure, and you already have a strong relationship with him, and a public acknowledgement of a new "mother-son" relationship isn't going to upset anyone (like the boy's mom...), then I'd consider your own special dance or other activity. But, I can totally foresee scenarios where this will not go well. Good luck!

That's a topic you should discuss with your fiancé and his son. Only they would know if that crosses any boundaries. I agree with the others, I've never seen the parent dances "open" for others but if that's what your doing I'd definitely just see if that's something he'd feel comfortable with.

Until sometime in this last 10-15 years, the standard, traditional thing was for the parents' dance to be opened after about one minute, and all called to the floor to join the dancing. And an awful lot of people still do it this way. This business of many spotlight dances where guests watch more than one, plus a minute of the next, came in with introducing music to grand entrances, showy performance dances, and an increase in DJ wedding MC's. The celebrity treatment before the wedding increasing to huge numbers of people having pro makeup, and people getting ready with groups of their WP. So if the boy would like to do the first dance , or more likely another dance where everyone is not looking, you choose. There is no wrong way, with the mix already doing either way. . Lots of teen boys don't want to be put on the spot in front of a group. That would be my greatest concern.