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I’m not changing mine! I’m an attorney, so I’m mostly keeping mine for professional reasons but in my FH’s home country women don’t take their husband’s last names so there was a cultural component as well.

I did not! It's not a thing in Chinese culture and I feel like I'd be losing my identity.

I am legally, but I plan on still going by my maiden name at work.

I didn't either! No cultural thing here, but I love my name, and since my brother didn't have any kids, my name is going to die with me. I'd like to delay its death as long as possible, lol.

I am not. For a lot of reasons. The most recent one is that it’s a lot of work and money. I just got a new passport last year and would have to pay to get a new one.

I never have. I'm not big on traditions that say that a woman is expected to do things that a man is not. In addition, I have a professional career in my name. I've also seen how much easier it is to keep contact with my male friends from high school, college, etc., than my female friends, because my male friends don't change their names. I saw no reason why getting married should require my giving up both my professional reputation and my chances of finding old friends again.

I'm not. A few reasons:

1. Professional. We're both actors, and we'd like to keep our identities separate.

2. There are no boys in my father's family anymore. No one to carry on the name.

3. I've never, ever wanted to. I like my name.

4. FMIL did not, and does not want ME to change my name, either.

5. *insert patriarchy rant here*

I am not changing mine. Second marriage and I don’t want to go thru all the hassle I’ve already dealt with twice (changing my name and then changing it back after divorce). I also have professional reasons to keep my maiden name, I like my maiden name, and I think changing my last name is antiquated. My FH is in full support and we’ve talked about hyphenating our names socially when we have children. But legally? Nope!

I'll comment, since my wife's not on this site, and I'm bored at the moment.

She hasn't legally changed her last name, and I haven't tried to persuade her to do so. I know it would be a huge hassle with all the places she'd have to change it, and I don't see a need for it. I know she's my wife! She added my last name onto hers on social media, and our friends refer to us as a couple by my last name, but legally she still has her original last name.

As of just a few days ago, she was still talking as though she might still do it at some point, but then went on about the major pain it would be. I think she still feels like it's something she's supposed to do because all the other married women in her life have done it, and she's worried it'll be even harder the longer she waits, which I don't know if that's really true at this point.

The only con I've seen so far is that when people send us money as a gift, in the form of a check written out to "Mr. and Mrs." and my last name, we have to go to the bank together with her ID and a copy of our marriage certificate to prove that she's actually the Mrs. on the check. But that's something we only really have to do once a year, so that's nothing compared to the hassle of changing her name.