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Savvy November 2019

New Job, old coworkers sent save the dates, what to do?

Kersten, on June 20, 2019 at 7:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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I know this is an odd question but when I sent my save the dates I fully intended to stay my then current job for a long time, was NOT looking for a new job. Fast forward two months after I sent save the dates to my coworkers another company has approached me with an unbelievable job offer that would be ridiculous to turn down... what do I do about my old coworkers I invited from my then current job? I know a few of them will come as I am extremely close with them outside of work. Do I send the invite knowing the others will probably NOT come? Just an awkward situation I am in now, just want to mention again when I sent save the dates I was not actively looking for other employment but I got a offer that was too incredible to refuse. Any input would be appreciated!

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Latest activity by Isabella, on June 21, 2019 at 5:26 PM

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Kelsey · on June 20, 2019 at 7:11 PM
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In my opinion you need to send invitations to anyone you send a Save the Date to, regardless of how circumstances may have changed.
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Cassy · on June 20, 2019 at 8:00 PM
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If you sent save the dates, you should definitely send the invitations too. The worst thing that could happen is they don’t come which you seem to already be expecting anyway, and who knows maybe you’ll be surprised and they’ll end up coming!
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on June 20, 2019 at 8:38 PM
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Not sending them invitations would be extremely rude.
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Mcskipper · on June 20, 2019 at 9:46 PM
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If you were close enough to them to invite them to your wedding, changing jobs shouldn’t completely nullify that relationship. Still invite them. If they don’t come, so be it. They may be excited to see you. Or they may be bitter that you left and not want to come. Just let them decide.
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Savvy November 2019
Kersten · on June 20, 2019 at 9:48 PM
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Thanks for the feedback!
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VIP September 2019
latasha · on June 20, 2019 at 10:19 PM
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Also agreeing with the sentiment that you should send invitations to the people you sent STDs to.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on June 21, 2019 at 12:46 AM
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Your relationship with them changed a lot after you left? The problem is they're already expecting an invite now that the std went out to them. Ya never know, they may decline anyway.
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Isabella · on June 21, 2019 at 5:26 PM
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I agree that you have to send invitations now that you've sent save the dates. I also agree with the notion that if you felt close enough to invite them in the first place that you getting a new job should not cause you to completely disregard those people now. If they feel like it's awkward or like the relationship isn't there anymore, leave it to them to decline the invitation.
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