Dedicated October 2020
New in laws hate me
I’m just needing somewhere to vent... 3 days into our marriage and I find out that my husbands family essentially hates me. My brother in law was a groomsman in our wedding. It was an awkward situation because I had one bridesmaid and he had two groomsman and he chose to make my brother his best man. Well I believe his mother led him to believe he was 2nd best man and he prepared a toast and everything. There was never any indication that he was, she just couldn’t believe he wouldn’t give that title to his brother who does nothing for him. At the rehearsal he was drinking warm beers meant for the wedding, him and his dad then went and got ice so they could drink them cold. My husband asked them to stop and they got snarky because his parents paid for it. We went and picked it all up and added in a few cases ourselves. The rest of the evening and most of the next day went fine. After the ceremony, during photos we asked his dad to get us some appetizers since we hadn’t ate. He complained came back complained some more about having to hold them and just started eating them. Several people on my husbands side didn’t come or left early. A lot of them didn’t even bring a card, including his own brother who asked us several times about our registry. His girlfriend bought us something and he made her return it. Then he proceeded to brag about the shotgun he was going to buy. He left pretty early and didn’t come back the next day to help clean like he was asked. My husband then wrote out a letter and proceeded to text him because he didn’t think he could get through a call. His brother than proceeded to attack and blame me. Told my husband he was disrespectful to his whole family. Made it clear that him and his family didn’t like me. I was devastated, a sobbing mess, and pushed right back into my depression. I sent a message to his brother letting him know I saw what was said, that I was hurt and that I had nothing to do with anything my husband said. I told him I would still treat him as family but frankly I just don’t know how to bounce back from this.
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