Never met so

Yes, that’s not a plus one they are a social unit. Over 1 year is a long term relationship.

A plus one is a random stranger. A significant other is someone they see themselves in a relationship with regardless of the time together. It is considered rude to invite only half of a couple because you are asking them to celebrate your relationship while disrespecting theirs. Many guests will be people you may not have met before, and that was common even before the pandemic. You can meet for 5 minutes on a FaceTime call if you wish.

Absolutely. A significant other is not a “plus one”. A plus one is extended to single friends with no attachments so that they can bring a friend, etc. with them so as not to be alone. If your guest is in a relationship, their spouse should be invited.

Yes. One year is a serious relationship. I had a couple friends whose partners I hadn't met (due to distance, COVID, whatever) and we invited all of them as a couple.

Yes. We invited a friend of my husband's that he hadn't seen in person since college but they talk online every week. I had never met this friend, much less his SO. We invited them both and only learned that they had eloped and gotten married after the invites went out. You can't judge the seriousness of a relationship based on if you have met their SO or not. I would feel horrible dismissing someone else's relationship while asking them to honor and celebrate mine.

Yes I would. Wouldn’t want to include them and not their SO.

Yes, I’d invite them. My fiancé went to a wedding late last year…since we aren’t married and weren’t engaged yet, I wasn’t invited (we’ve been together going on 8 years). And I definitely felt left out because everyone we knew were invited. Funny thing…they’re both invited to our wedding…

Personally I would invite the partner but that said what are you doing for other friends in relationships because I think it should be the same for every guest you set a rule and stick to it otherwise feelings will get hurt. It can be hard when space is limited and budget is a concern but as Grace so beautifully put " I would feel horrible dismissing someone else's relationship while asking them to honor and celebrate mine."

Anyone that identifies as being in a relationship must be invited with their SO.

Yes I would I would let them bring him or her and once you reached your max then when ppl start asking then. That's when you start telling them that I can't allow anymore ppl. We are almost there as well so once we get too our max which is 65.

Yes. Since they are in a long term relationship it is not a plus one.

Yes! Anyone in a relationship should have their significant other invited by name.

I have known my friend for 3 years now and I still haven't met her husband. My friend met my fiance for the first time at her wedding. Your relationship with the SO is not relevant to whether he warrants an invite. Their relationship with each other is relevant.


It also sucks to go to a wedding alone when everyone is paired up.

I have a different take on this and it’s partially infused by cultural tradition but we don’t really limit plus ones. It’s like everyone from the village is invited. Translated in US terms we figured that our friends are good people that should have a good judgment about who to bring and not to bring, so I myself would probably allow it. But if budget is an issue then I certainly understand your perspective and wanting to limit that as well.

Absolutely! Boyfriends and girlfriends are a package deal. We invited several significant others who we hadn't had the opportunity to meet yet

I would invite him too if it’s destination wedding and your friend would be alone on the trip and stay there alone too.. I think it’s only a total must if they’re engaged or married. Don’t think it’s a must if it’s just dating. I’ve been invited without bfs in the past and I have understood that it’s not always possible for financial reasons. If you explain this to her then I think she will also understand

Invite them, I went to a wedding in May where my fiancé was not invited. I was miserable, I was texting him the whole time how I wish he was there. Bc weddings are a whole lovey dovey vibe. I’ll always involuntarily look back at the wedding that I was alone at and sat during the slow songs. But I just went to one this past weekend (with fiancé) and I can’t stop raving about how much fun we had.


Invite the SO