Never been a bridesmaid or gone to many weddings

You absolutely deserve to be getting married and having a day to celebrate your relationship!! Don't ever doubt that. Maybe it'll be a good bonding experience to ask your MIL for her advice and help since she's going it through it too.

Maybe I'm misunderstanding your post is your concern that you just don't know what to do as a bride or that you don't feel as excited as you feel like you should? I feel like you shouldn't focus on what is you have not been too, but just focus on the type of wedding that you want to have. Usually when people are depressed or anxious, there's usually an underlying factor that causes. The feelings. Are you worried about if guests will come to your wedding or something?

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Thanks for the kindness

Her wedding was thrown together in about three months which is really a reflection of the free spirit that she is, and I know nothing other than where it will be and where we are staying. I'm afraid she wouldn't be the one to ask just due to not experiencing the same things.

XOXO

View Quoted Comment Ok, she may not be the best example lol. Just remember it's just a party with a wedding ceremony thrown in. You'll have to get your marriage license beforehand but check the requirements for your state. As long as you have good food, drink and music people will have fun. Don't stress, enjoy being engaged and marrying the man of your dreams.

Please don’t let your self-worth be tied to whether you are a bridesmaid or not. I’ve been a bridesmaid one time and I loved supporting my friend but the role itself was not that special (meaning buying a dress, getting together with other girls I had never even met and will never see again, etc). I have a friend who has a nervous breakdown when she’s not asked to be a bridesmaid or in my case she was a bm but not my maid of honor. You never know why people choose their wedding parties, sometimes they are family, or their fiancés family, or sometimes they’re really close to someone that has nothing to do with you. I would be honestly happy if I were never a bridesmaid again lol.

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Thanks for your feedback!

That is strange about your friend and I honestly don't think it is even that important to me-and I definitely agree that it has nothing to do with me. I may have misspoken and confused everyone. I don't tell stories well or really even write in a way that flows and makes sense.

I think reading stories about people who have experienced that made me a little blue just because I haven't ever experienced it, but It may not need to be as important to me as I make it seem or it looks? IDK if that makes sense. For instance, I long for things I've never experienced and it comes back to me like a tsunami. Like never going to a party in HS, missing out on a lot of things i think "normal" people do. It can't be fear of missing out because half the time, I don't know what I've missed!

Gahh! Anyway-thanks!

You’re not crazy! Before a few years ago, I had never been to a wedding! (I’m 25)

You def deserve to be married! I have had those thoughts too. I have also never been in a wedding, but I have been to a good amount of weddings.

The feeling of never being asked to be in one kind of hurts a bit though, but I move on I guess. lol