Nervous About Talking with Priest

I don't think a whole new wardrobe is needed for one wedding....

Just email him to see what other dates are open during a time frame your looking at... or find a vendor and than chnage

FH is Catholic but I am not, and recently found out I was never baptized. I don't have to tell you that some priests would refuse to even perform a marriage, but we found one who is so wonderful, has helped us immensely already, and is perfectly happy despite the no-no. If yours is wonderful and pleasant there may have been a simple misunderstanding, and you can probably just be honest with him about the date. You have a good bit of time to adjust before you'll even need to think about sending invites (even with travel considerations). I think a call is fine, and you can hammer out some finer details during your meeting.

Thanks MrsBBR, that actually made me feel a little calmer. I think I was just nervous and didn't want to say no to anything and come across as disagreeable since I felt like I was putting him out already because it was difficult to schedule a meeting with him.

As for a new wardrobe...perhaps not an entire closet filled with clothes, but for someone accustomed to wearing shorts and flip flops, there is quite a bit of money involved in buying boots, coat, hat, gloves, scarves, sweaters, and other weather appropriate clothes. I know, my fiance (from Florida) arrived here with two pairs of shorts, flip flops, and a bunch of t-shirts. He had no other clothes, the only reason being that he didn't need any other clothes for his Florida lifestyle.

So yeah, it would definitely be an expense that I'd like to avoid since they are already paying to travel.

Both of us are like you, getting married in a Catholic Church because we are raised Catholic but don't go to church and live together and to be honest, I think the priest has to realize it is modern times. I don't think he can find out anyways.

Don't blame you one bit, I was nervous, too! Catholics are very conservative and by-the-book usually, so I didn't know what to expect with ours. We're getting married in the chapel of FH's Catholic graduate university, so I just had to go out on a limb based on the Spiritans' short bios. It was such a big relief to meet with him, he's such a sweet man and our meeting really made the marriage feelings hit!

We both grew up Catholic. I still go but he doesn't. The priest I'm working with is pretty open and he knows we live together. Just talk with him and he should be open to a different date

I wouldn't stress until you meet with him. The priest marrying us knows we live together and is totally okay with it. It's really dependent on individuals these days so don't write him off as super strict! Also just ask what dates are available, you don't have to abide by what date he dictates, I'm sure it was just a misunderstanding! Good luck!

Our priest knew we lived together and was fine with it. You shouldn't be nervous! You are making an effort to try and find your faith again. I hope the priest is able to answer any questions you have

I was super nervous too, but our priest never even asked if we lived together. I know he most likely assumes we do since we attend church together. Go in with an open mind and be honest! Choose the date that you want and that is available at the church.