Negligee or Dishes?????

Bridal/wedding shower = gifts off the registry. Bachelorette or a "lingerie" shower = sexy gifts.

Two different things. For the love of God, two different guest lists. But you do not need both, or either really.

That's what I was thinking. I could just imagine pulling out some skimpy lingerie in front of my grandmother!!!! (complete terror!!!)

Yeah... Usually any showers with personal items for the gifts (lingerie etc.) are separate from the main shower and the guest list is more close friends to avoid awkwardness.

Hahaha!! This happened to me. My girls threw me a henna party (arabic tradition) and decided not to mention to me that people were bringing me lingerie. My mom and grandma were in attendance. Don't get me wrong...they got me some super cute stuff and I had a fantastic time but I was mortified when I opened 90% of the gifts. The girls even made me name each item something kinky... it was hilarious but so awkward.

I am probably having a monogram themed bridal shower (not bachelorette party)... probably will not be getting things from my registry. That does not make it any less of a shower...

I am like you and more traditional. I want stuff not lingerie in front of my family. My friend.had her now husband's grandma give her a Teddy she got at a yard sale! Used no.doubt. eww

FSIL's shower was a mix of the two, and honestly was a little uncomfortable. They did an around the clock shower but also had every guest bring a pair of panties for her. Overall it was just weird and I told my bridesmaids my one request with my shower was no lingerie. I don't want to be opening that in front of my 90 year old nana or FH's grandmothers.

What Lori said. They are two different things. i always felt a shower was to receive the gifts off your registry. Wedding I always give cash.

Umm they can be either. If i am a friend of the bride I usually give something sexy! Never heard of a shower for just that purpose.

A bridal shower is just that a brides day - some give things that the bride has for her night of .. others would give things off your bridal registry but they are usually gifts for you. Unless it's a shower where women and men are invited that's a bit different at times. Most know grandparents etc will be there but you will get that one thing that might make you blush.. take it in stride and move forward with it!

I told my MOH to ask my young friends NOT to give me any "sexy" things such as lingerie. My mother is going to be there along with other relatives and I would be mortified if I opened such presents in front of them. I'm asking that those type of gifts be saved for the bachelorette party.