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Expert October 2020

Negative people

Futuremrsm, on August 20, 2019 at 11:21 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 16

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Does anyone else have anyone in their family that never has anything nice to say? In my example it's my sister lol. She is one my my bridesmaids (my mom and grandmom pressured me into asking her to be in the wedding, its whatever, not mad about it)

So my cousin got married previously at the venue that we picked, and my sister has complained. She keeps telling me "the food sucked" "nothing was good" "the drinks were weak and gross". She also said that the bakery that the venue partners with has awful cake. (Again, I enjoyed it, as did the rest of my family). Everyone else at the wedding raved over the food.

I for one had a great time at my cousins wedding and wouldn't have picked the venue if I didnt enjoy the food. I'm not really asking for advice, I just wanted to let it out there. I'm not really mad, and it's kind or comical at times. But its starting to get a bit annoying. Like, just try to say one positive thing!

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Latest activity by Concetta, on August 23, 2019 at 10:14 AM

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Jess · on August 20, 2019 at 11:30 AM
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All the time, I just ignore it at this point . I had someone in my fam tell me to my face they weren’t going because it is too far lol our wedding is taking place at Disney which is 3 hr away from us but the funny thing is that person goes all the time haha so I just think of it as one less mouth to feed .. I feel like someone will always have something to say if that is the venue you guys want then go for it
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Kelsey · on August 20, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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Yes, 2 right now actually. My mom and my cousin, who is a bridesmaid. My cousin has no money for the bridesmaid dress right now; not a big deal right now because she doesn't need to purchase anything this very moment. But it's become a huge problem, because she voices the problems to my mom who then lays into me; then I get frustrated with everyone.
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Melissa · on August 20, 2019 at 11:59 AM
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Yep! Some people just can't be pleased. All you can do is brush it off and keep rolling with what makes YOU happy. Now if she starts getting in the way of your planning, your happiness or starts putting stress on the relationship, that's obviously a different story and should be addressed.
But yes, I absolutely had a few people like this who nit picked everything while planning (and then I stopped telling them anything) and even nit picked after the fact. I don't care, we had a great wedding, everyone ELSE had fun, so whatever!
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Melle · on August 20, 2019 at 12:46 PM
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My mom. I swear she couldn't just give a compliment.
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Nicole · on August 20, 2019 at 1:02 PM
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I'm so sorry you're dealing with negativity and from all people, you sister Maybe try sharing less info with her so she doesn't feel the need to share her negative opinion.

good luck
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2d Bride · on August 20, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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Alas, my mother is such a negative influence, she didn't even get invited to the wedding.
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Rachael · on August 20, 2019 at 2:31 PM
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You sound much more patient than me!! If I were in your shoes, I'd have already said "Well, I liked the food, so-and-so liked the food, and so did whatserface, so maybe it's not the venue that's got the issue here...." lol oooiiii. I have to commend you on your finding hilarity in it all girl, good for you!!
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Futuremrsm · on August 20, 2019 at 2:58 PM
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She's always been a negative person so I guess I'm used to it haha
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Futuremrsm · on August 20, 2019 at 2:59 PM
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The issue is she still lives at home, and she listens in when I tell my mom about plans

Thank you!
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Futuremrsm · on August 20, 2019 at 2:59 PM
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I would be so excited if someone invited me to a disney wedding!! That's so magical. Happy planning
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Amber · on August 20, 2019 at 3:30 PM
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One of my sisters is also quite the Debbie downer. She's always got something to complain about. I had planned on making my other sister Maid of Honor but hated that she might feel left out so I made her my Matron of Honor to avoid any complaints. When I asked all my girls I gave them a wine bottle in a bag that says "I can't say I do without you" and a very sentimental hand written card with "will you be my Matron of Honor" and all she had to say was "sure" Hope this doesn't become a bigger issue for either one of us! If so, give her the boot (from the mouth of my mother lol)!
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Futuremrsm · on August 20, 2019 at 4:18 PM
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My experience was similar! I made everyone a cute box, and it had hair ties in it that said "will you be my bridesmaid and help me tie the knot?" And she just stared at the box and didnt say anything. My mom says to her "there is a question in there" and she just says "yeah sure". I was like "you dont have to be in the wedding if you dont want" I feel your pain
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D · on August 20, 2019 at 10:46 PM
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My mom and we live with her. Her attitude effects my attitude then I start becoming more negative too. I have to take over the phone if she calls customer service because she gets so out of hand. She IS that nightmare call.
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Rebecca · on August 21, 2019 at 3:12 AM
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My mother (who has declined the invitation).
Also, FSIL, though only to me. To FH, she's a fascinating mix of negative and kind.
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Futuremrsm · on August 22, 2019 at 7:30 AM
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I actually moved into my FHs parents house because my sister was too awful and negative to live with. I feel your pain
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Concetta · on August 23, 2019 at 10:14 AM
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Omg, I get comments all of the time!!! my cousin also got married at my venue 10 years ago! and my sister in law kept telling me how she hates my venue hates the food hates every single thing and practically begged me not to choose but oh well we did what we wanted and I am so happy!!!! I know it is hard, but just try to ignore the comments, people seem to be so full of them especially when it is something negative
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