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Celena
Beginner October 2022

Needing advice.

Celena, on October 9, 2021 at 6:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

My fiancee and I have our invites prepped but we are getting some mixed opinions on the rough draft from our proofers since we designed them. We have been living together for 3 years and pretty much have everything and then some for household. We have a section labeled 'Gifts' and under that it reads "Out life together has already begun; we have almost everything under the sun. If you should wish to buy us a gift, a little extra money would give us a ship. However please do not feel obligated as most importantly we request you share our magical day as our wedding guest. Now that we've saved you any fuss, we can't wait for you to celebrate with us."

Is this inappropriate to put on an invite or should we just leave it blank.

Thanks

**EDIT: We are not doing a wedding website as many of our families are not technologic savvy enough to navigate to one.

13 Comments

Latest activity by Jacks, on October 11, 2021 at 11:44 PM
  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    That should go on your wedding website, not your invites.
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  • Lisa
    Legend July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    I agree with this. Add that info to the wedding website, and put a link to the website on your invitations. The invitations themselves should not mention gifts in any way.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2020
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    Hi Celena! I agree with the previous poster to place it on your wedding website rather than the invitation. Hope this helps ❤️❤️❤️
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  • Celena
    Beginner October 2022
    Celena ·
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    We are not doing a wedding website at all.

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  • I_Do_Too
    Devoted September 2020
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    If you do not have a registry, people will know to give you money.
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  • Jm Sunshine
    Jm Sunshine ·
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    I totally agree! A "gift/money" section does not belong on the invites.
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  • Hannah
    Dedicated October 2021
    Hannah ·
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    I would not put anything regarding gifts on the invites! If you don’t have a registry, people usually get the hint that you would prefer cash
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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    Gifts should never be mentioned on an invitation
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  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    An invitation is just that, to invite people to your event. It's considered rude to ask for gifts or cash or whatever on the invite..


    So if you don't want gifts and you're not having a website, you can rely on the old-fashioned word of mouth. If a guest asks, have your bridesmaids/parents/whoever say that you would prefer cash or nothing.
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  • T
    Expert May 2010
    Theresa ·
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    Did anyone actually read OP's post? She's not asking for gifts, in fact she's telling guests she doesn't want or need gifts, and they should just show up. That said, the invitation is still not the appropriate place for this. What size is the wedding? Is this something that could be spread through word of mouth? Worst case, as others said, people will give money if there is not a registry.

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  • S
    Super September 2022
    Sarah ·
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    Don’t put anything about gifts or money on the invite. If there is no registry guests will just give you money if they want
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  • M
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    Maggie ·
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    I agree with everyone who said that there should be no mention of gifts or money on invitations. It doesn't matter that you aren't having a website (those aren't required). Just don't mention gifts at all.

    Many of your guests will want to give you a gift and they can either bring a check/cash or they can ask you about a registry (and then you can respond that you didn't register but are saving up money for...a ship? not sure if that was serious in your poem). Trust your people to know what to do without everything needing to be spelled out.

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  • Jacks
    Champion November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    Never mention gifts in a wedding invitation.

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