Hello, everyone. I just really needed to vent about something that has recently happened in our wedding party. We have 4 groomsmen and 4 bridesmaids. My bridesmaids have been totally amazing and I love them all.
The best man is my FH's younger brother, who I absolutely adore. Groomsman #2 is FH's cousin, who he grew up with. Groomsman #3 and 4 are FH's college friends that I've met before and get along OK with. I didn't get along with #3 and 4 before, but I'm okay with #3 now.
Here's the first issue that popped up. Groomsman #2 is in the Navy and his schedule is VERY unpredictable. He goes silent for months at a time when he's on duty. He texted us maybe 2-3 months ago that he most likely won't be able to make it to the wedding at all and because of that, he didn't think he should be a groomsman anymore, which he was very regretful about. I totally understand and especially because he is out there protecting our country and he couldn't just request a vacation. Although the topic was a little too sensitive for a text, but I understood. We honestly have NO IDEA where he is at the moment. We were both sad he couldn't make it, but we understood.
This one got me: Groomsman #4 bailed out two days ago, Sunday night via text. Groomsman #4 is in med school, which I understand is VERY stressful and demanding. I also know that there are circumstances beyond your control. Which is why we sent out save the dates around March/April. He messaged my FH around the time he should have received our invitation. He lives in the same state we do, and lives less than 1 hour away from us. He texted my FH Sunday night that he'll be out of state during our wedding (which is in October) and won't make it. This one I got very upset at. He TEXTS my FH that he can't come to the wedding because he will be out of state then. I don't know what his circumstances are, but frankly I don't care. I never liked this guy and the fact that he TEXTED my FH when he lives in the same time zone as us instead of calling really got on my nerves. His best friend is getting married in October and he texts him that he's too busy that month.
When my FH showed #4 a picture of me when my FH and I first met, he said "You (my FH) really drew the short end of the stick, didn't you?" When I first met him, he started "interviewing" me in a different language that we both speak. My FH and others didn't speak that language and couldn't understand, which was really weird to me. Why did he feel the need to speak in a different language? To test my second language skills? I say interviewing because he kept asking me questions and I didn't have a chance to. Then after his questions, he just nodded to my FH.
I never liked the guy and now he's seriously bailing out on his "best friend's" wedding. My FH is now down to 2 groomsmen, and he's now looking for substitutes.
