Two days ago, my fiancé told me that my SIL has to talk to me about shopping for bridesmaid dresses. I told him to tell her to text me...she didn’t, so I texted her today (I am going shopping with all of my bridesmaids tomorrow). She can’t make it because someone at work is on vacation so she’s working a double and she “couldn’t turn down the money right now.” She bartends.
We have had this appointment for over a month. My sister is my MOH and coordinated all of this in their own bridesmaid group chat that I’m not in. So maybe she felt uncomfortable making this known in the chat. What I’m upset about is that she acts like she’s short on money, but is always going out drinking with her friends. She always has the money and time for that (it especially bothers me when my fiancé and I drive 2 hours to see her and their parents and she chooses to go out with her friends instead of spending time with us when we’re there).
I’m mostly worried about this because I’m a very particular person and even though I’m letting all of my bridesmaids pick different style dresses, I want them to be the exact same color and of the same quality. I feel like she will not pick a dress of the same quality and it will be difficult for me to make sure this doesn’t happen if she goes shopping on her own. She has a tendency to not follow through with things correctly.
I do love her, but I just feel like she never puts herself before anyone else. It makes me feel bad when my fiancé will do anything in the world for his little sister. I’m also unsure of how to tell her what dress to pick when I’m not with her - do I give her a list of options based on what my other bridesmaids pick tomorrow?
Am I wrong for being a little upset with her? I just feel like this should have been more of a priority, especially for someone who keeps asking if she can make a speech at our wedding.
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