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Just Said Yes October 2020

Need some help and encouragement

Elizabeth, on August 30, 2020 at 4:05 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17

I just got alterations done, the seamstress added cups into the dress but somehow I feel like it doesn't look right, I'm a very modest person and feel like it's showing too much cleavage? I could really use some suggestions or opinions on both the front and back. I'm not sure how I feel about the back anymore and don't like how it is showing fat rolls. I have been struggling with dress and veil regret and worried that my fiance won't like any of it Smiley sad

I went dress shopping with a friend and picked the second dress I tried on. My friend and sales person LOVED it, and I thought I did too. I thought I should just get it because I didn't know if I'd get any other chance to look for dresses because of covid. I also just immediately bought the veil that they brought out which now feels a bit boring as there is no detail to it Smiley sadProblem is I never wanted a fit and flare dress and even told the sales person I was looking for a line or ballgown. We are eloping in less than 2 months and I can't justify spending money on another dress or veil.
Pictures attached of front and back (I couldn't button the back completely as there is nobody to help me). I know (hope!) it'll look a bit better when the dress and veil have been steamed and I'm glammed up with makeup, but please I would love some encouragement. Need some help and encouragement 1
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Thank you so much for your suggestions!


Latest activity by Martina, on October 10, 2020 at 9:30 PM
  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    I think it looks great! I love the back (and see zero back fat)! There is no way to not have cleavage with that neckline, cups or not.
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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    You look stunning! I can't see any back fat that would be a concern. But we are all our own worst critics so it's understandable to feel that way.

    You'll feel better once the dress is steamed and you're glammed up.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    It is such a beautiful gown
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    Ok, first of all, your dress looks beautiful on you! Not that many people have the figure to pull off this dress and you are one of the lucky few! I think you will look back at pictures years from now & be so glad you chose a silhouette that shows it off! Secondly, I would never look at you & think this dress is too revealing in the chest. Even my grandma would say it’s beautiful! I think it covers enough to remain tasteful, without looking matronly. As far as the back of the dress goes.. I don’t see any fat rolls! Are you referring to the area by your arms? If so, everyone has that! By no means do I think you need to cover that area. But if YOU feel uncomfortable with it, a seamstress can add a layer of delicate lace edging to the sides to provide more coverage. My cousin actually did that with her dress and you would have never known it was added- it looked like it had been made that way. If you want a more detailed veil, there are Etsy shops that sell beautiful ones for a fraction of the price!
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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    Beautiful dress. I don’t see any cleavage or back fat on you. It’s a perfect fit.
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  • E
    Just Said Yes October 2020
    Elizabeth ·
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    Thank you all so so much!! You have really reassured me a lot!! I so appreciate it! I did go ahead and buy a different cathedral veil from Etsy for $50! (I wish I had done that all along instead of spend $100 at davids bridal.) Because the front of my dress is so simple I think it'll be nice to have some more detail in the veil! Smiley smile I also bought some earrings and a beautiful bracelet so hopefully once I put everything on together on my wedding day, I will feel beautiful and like a bride Smiley smile

    Yes I was concerned about the area by my arms, I will look into possibly adding some lace to it!
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  • H
    Devoted August 2023
    Hhh ·
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    It’s really stunning on you! (and you have literally no backfat) Also remember that classic dresses that rely on the structure for glam look SOOO much better when steamed/pressed!
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    Girl you were made to wear this dress! Seriously as other pp said, not everyone could pull off this silhouette and shape and you nailed’s the perfect dress for you!

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  • VIP August 2020
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    I think it looks amazing on you! Based on your description, I was expecting the dress to be very revealing and unflattering and it is neither. I don't think you need to change anything. However, I removed the extra cups that were added to my dress because I self conscious about the way it looked, and I would recommend doing that if you're feeling the same way. If you had cups added to avoid having to wear a bra, you might be able to have them replaced with thinner ones, or they can be removed altogether and you can wear a sticky bra instead if you need some support.
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  • Leanne
    Super September 2020
    Leanne ·
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    It looks really really good on you, I love the back. Maybe get a necklace that sits in the middle of the neckline so you don’t feel so exposed or empty… I don’t know what words I’m trying to come up with LOL.
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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I don't see any back fat. The dress looks beautiful on you.
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    That dress is gorgeous & you look absolutely amazing in it! We all have a tendency to be our own worse critics! Congrats on finding your dress!
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    Devoted October 2021
    Adrienne ·
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    What do you even mean, you are nailing this dress!! It looks beautiful on you!!

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    I tend to be very conservative and am especially not at all a fan of revealing wedding dresses. (Sometimes I literally cringe at dress posts....) Like others, based on your description I was anticipating something VERY different when I scrolled to your photos. Honestly, as an older-middle-aged mom, your dress is absolutely gorgeous on you and not at all too revealing. I guess if you are truly uncomfortable you can ask your alterations person about the possibility of adding a lace panel to the front, but I wouldn't -- it's perfect just the way it is! Smiley heart

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  • Molly
    VIP September 2020
    Molly ·
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    I think looks great! You are a beautiful bride! Awesome dress choice!


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  • Tanyia
    Expert February 2020
    Tanyia ·
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    I think it looks amazing. Sorry, but you don’t have a lot to make “too much” cleavage to begin with. It’s classy and fits well! Beautiful dress!
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  • M
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Martina ·
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    I think you look perfect!
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