Need some advices

I guess I’m not understanding why the grandmother should get a say, but if you wanted to compromise, can you have something in the states for his family, and something in the Philippines for your family? Either way you have he right to wear what you want and be surrounded by loved ones that support what you want.

I'm sure you are giving your grandmother a say out of respect. But because it really is YOUR day then you need to do what YOU want to do. Is she pitching in for anything? If not then go about it and have your ceremony so you can wear a dress and have that special day all for just you and your husband I mean what is she going to do if you go through with it? Just keep talking bad about it? Do your best and just ignore that. You have to be strong to fight for YOUR happiness.

Also I know Filipinos definitely like to save because I grew up in a Filipino household where my parents would save whatever we can lol! I like to save as well, but to an extent.. For example, I wanted to get rid of my debut dress from years ago. I had no need for it especially when I don't fit it in anymore. She told me to save it for when I have a girl, but what if I don't? And if I did what if she wants a completely style and colored dress for her debut? So, I just told her to keep it and do whatever she wants with it, but it was not going to be stored in my closet. If it was in my closet I would have sold it or donated it lol.

And I also liked Ashley's idea. Maybe you guys can come up with a comprise for one in the states and one in the Philippines!