Need some advice

It's hard being a people pleaser, and a great lesson you'll learn while wedding planning is that it's almost impossible to please everyone. Therefore, you and your FH need to have the wedding that you both want and love! Including him in the wedding planning is a great way to ensure that his opinions and thoughts are heard!

Another thing to do, like Apryl suggested, is not telling your plans to everyone else unless you know that they'll share in your enthusiasm and will support your decisions.

A great place to start with wedding planning and getting with your FH and discussing your budget, estimated guest count, and where you think you'd like your wedding to be held. After that, I suggest creating an excel spreadsheet, or using a budget tracker to make sure you're staying on track with your budget! Excel spreadsheets are great for this, and you can create several sheets on one document. We did this and we have a page on there will all of our vendor info!

Just keep plans private between you and him. Other family/friends are on a need to know basis.

Have you started planning yet? Sat down with him to decide what you both want? Work on guest list, budget, areas to splurge and cut. Got your venue located and booked?

Best advice I can give you is don't be a people pleaser (unless it's about something major like food allergies that could be health threatening). Otherwise, don't try to please people by paying extra for something you feel won't make a difference. You will lose your mind trying to make things perfect and bending over backwards for everyone. It will steal the joy of planning and your engagement. Best advice I can give from personal experience: keep it simple and just do you!

Make plans together. Keep the communication open.

There's a line from an old song... "you can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself."

Wedding plans should be on a need-to-know basis. You might initially get some pushback on this from family members who seem well-meaning. And while many of them really do mean well, they may have opinions that only make things harder for you. It's best to keep everything to yourselves (except the obvious things like when and where.)

Definitely communicate with your FH. He's the one person you should feel good talking about anything about the wedding. And a lot of these things he is going to have important input, like budget and who is invited.

Girl, if he loves you, he'll feel like he's in a dream no matter what you do. Why? Because he's marrying YOU!

As far as people-pleasing, just make sure you have enough food and drink and seating for people and are a considerate host (no gaps, no cash bars, not separating families/couples, etc.) and you're in the clear. So long as you're a good host, your guests should enjoy themselves, and if they don't, that's their problem.