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Missy
Just Said Yes September 2022

Need some advice

Missy, on April 8, 2021 at 4:26 AM Posted in Planning 0 13
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Hello! I'm a young bride and I need some advice.

I feel like I'm panicking about planning my wedding and I feel like I have to make everything perfect and be a people pleaser, everyone just tells me "relax your wedding is a year away" but I just want to make everyone happy including my amazing fiance, I want the wedding to be very special to him too and feel amazing as he looks around,. I want him to feel like a king that day, like he is in a dream. Seeing that smile on his face would make me so happy. I just really need advice on how to plan or where to start and how to let my self relax a bit ☺️


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Latest activity by Ivory, on April 12, 2021 at 1:13 PM
  • Apryl
    Devoted March 2022
    Apryl ·
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    I think one of the best things you can do as a people pleaser is not tell everyone your plans unless they truly want what you want. Not what they want you to have.
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  • SLY
    Master January 2022
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    It's hard being a people pleaser, and a great lesson you'll learn while wedding planning is that it's almost impossible to please everyone. Therefore, you and your FH need to have the wedding that you both want and love! Including him in the wedding planning is a great way to ensure that his opinions and thoughts are heard!

    Another thing to do, like Apryl suggested, is not telling your plans to everyone else unless you know that they'll share in your enthusiasm and will support your decisions.

    A great place to start with wedding planning and getting with your FH and discussing your budget, estimated guest count, and where you think you'd like your wedding to be held. After that, I suggest creating an excel spreadsheet, or using a budget tracker to make sure you're staying on track with your budget! Excel spreadsheets are great for this, and you can create several sheets on one document. We did this and we have a page on there will all of our vendor info!

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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    I'd start by jotting things down that both you and ur fiance want for your wedding. It's your guys day and it should be the most special to both of you than anyone else. Like people said keep plans to yourself. At the end of the day it's your wedding and ur memories that are going to matter the most.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Just keep plans private between you and him. Other family/friends are on a need to know basis.


    Have you started planning yet? Sat down with him to decide what you both want? Work on guest list, budget, areas to splurge and cut. Got your venue located and booked?

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  • Sara
    Savvy July 2021
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    Best advice I can give you is don't be a people pleaser (unless it's about something major like food allergies that could be health threatening). Otherwise, don't try to please people by paying extra for something you feel won't make a difference. You will lose your mind trying to make things perfect and bending over backwards for everyone. It will steal the joy of planning and your engagement. Best advice I can give from personal experience: keep it simple and just do you!

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  • Missy
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Missy ·
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    We just started working on our guest list, we have our theme as well but I really want to make sure that he is happy with our plans.
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  • Missy
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Missy ·
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    Thank you guys so much for advice it's truly is appreciated 💓💕
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Make plans together. Keep the communication open.

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  • Aliea
    Dedicated September 2021
    Aliea ·
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    I wish I could like some of these as they gave really good advice. The only one you need to please is your man he is the one who you are going to be married to not everyone else so I would start with what you two want not what will make others happy.
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  • E
    Super July 2023
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    There's a line from an old song... "you can't please everyone so you've got to please yourself."

    Wedding plans should be on a need-to-know basis. You might initially get some pushback on this from family members who seem well-meaning. And while many of them really do mean well, they may have opinions that only make things harder for you. It's best to keep everything to yourselves (except the obvious things like when and where.)

    Definitely communicate with your FH. He's the one person you should feel good talking about anything about the wedding. And a lot of these things he is going to have important input, like budget and who is invited.

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  • Missy
    Just Said Yes September 2022
    Missy ·
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    Thank you so much!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    The only people you need to please are you & your partner. Collaborate with him on things that are important to him (food, music) and he’ll love it! Most guys in general don’t care about the decor, but food & music they can get into. He might like to help choose the venue too. Then seeing you will be his favorite part!!!
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  • I
    Dedicated August 2024
    Ivory ·
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    Girl, if he loves you, he'll feel like he's in a dream no matter what you do. Why? Because he's marrying YOU!

    As far as people-pleasing, just make sure you have enough food and drink and seating for people and are a considerate host (no gaps, no cash bars, not separating families/couples, etc.) and you're in the clear. So long as you're a good host, your guests should enjoy themselves, and if they don't, that's their problem.

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