Need Opinions

I think it’s sweet of you to consider asking her. If you’re hoping to have your relationship be more than “just there”, then I would include her. My son-in-law’s mother left when he was young and his dad remarried just a few years before he got married to my daughter. They included his step-mom in everything from dress shopping, to referring to her as the MOG, to getting ready with us and even did a mother son dance with her. They got along fine before, but now they are much closer!

If you have an okay relationship with her, then I'd include her. I think that its really nice of you to consider her getting ready with you.

Good way to change the direction of that relationship. As a future step-mother, I can tell you that we take cues from the children and their comfort level. It means a lot when they make you feel significant or part of the family. If it's no skin off your nose, I would set the tone and invite her.

I'm projecting a similar relationship with my stepmother, but I think if I were you I'd invite her, but also make it clear that if she'd rather be with my dad (who in my case is going to meet up with the guys and FH's dad), that that's fine too.

I agree with others to invite her. It doesn't sound like she will cause added stress. She can always decline if she doesn't think its appropriate. Plus as others have said, this could make your relationship stronger.

I think it's a nice gesture. My mother and my husband's mother & stepmom all got ready with me and my bridesmaids.