Need opinions - Is this a good idea??

I haven't and won't attend a wedding in the COVID age (my husband is immunocompromised so we need to remain more cautious than most), so I am not your target audience. But I do like helping people save money and I feel like this would be a needless expense. Anyone choosing to attend a wedding now is probably automatically a green or yellow and able to verbalize what they are comfortable with as far as hugging. And if anyone chooses to wear a mask that also serves as a bit of a "stay back" warning.

We haven't been to a wedding that had these, and we aren't doing this at ours, but I have seen this idea before!

I think if it's within your budget and it will make you and your guests more comfortable, then you can do it! You know your crowd best, so if you think they'll use them and appreciate them, then why not? We know our guests won't, so we skipped any sort of color coding system like this.

Honestly, I would not put one of those bracelets on with whatever I was wearing to a wedding and would also assume they’re dirty and have been touched by people. At this point, if someone is comfortable attending your wedding then they will set their own boundaries. I’m attending a wedding in September and will not go out of my way to hug anyone and will keep my physical distance because that makes me more comfortable. I also think even if I was wearing a “do not hug” bracelet and grandma wants to hug me, she’s just going to go for it.

I agree that it depends on your crowd. If you think guests would appreciate them and use them to their advantage, do it! You could also just as well spend that money to provide masks and hand sanitizer for your guests and they may use those more if they feel it's necessary.

I agree as well! Totally depends on your crowd. Are you also providing masks and hand sanitizer as well? This is thoughtful though!

My wedding is also in a couple months and I’ve wondered how to tackle the whole Covid thing too. I even posted a discussion here on WW and of course the two extreme sides came out swinging haha. I’ve learned that I can’t please everyone. Some will think it’s ridiculous, and some will think it’s not enough.


The one point that might be helpful, that I had to realize as well, is that if they agreed to go to a wedding, then they probably understand the risk and have decided that they are okay with it. So anyone who would wear the “red” level, probably shouldn’t go anyway. Trying to social distance/avoid people/ etc at a wedding is kind of impossible.
Just provide ample sanitizer and masks for those who want them (but would probably have their own anyway). Bizarre times we are having our weddings in!!

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That's a good way to think about it! You're totally right, and providing masks and sanitizer is a more useful idea. We have a good mix of a younger and older crowd, so we definitley can't please everyone, and yeah - anyone who's already decided to go is most likely vaccinated and/or understands the risk already. We also requested that people bring proof of vaccination or a negative test with them (not that we really have any way to check but it can't hurt). Bizarre times indeed. I appreciate your advice!

View Quoted Comment I agree with this.

I think in theory, this idea is great! However, a couple things that I'm not sure how they'd actually turn out: 1. It might work better with buttons instead of bracelets, since long sleeves can hide bracelets, and buttons/pins are more visible than a bracelet. 2. Not sure how many people would actually follow this - social distancing tends to be difficult at a wedding, and people would probably still have to verbalize their comfort level, especially if alcohol is involved, since people may forget to check what color the other person is wearing before approaching them.


I would instead probably put hand sanitizer/disinfectant wipes at each table, have masks available in case anyone wants them, and maybe limit the number of people per table (for example, if the table normally holds 10 people, maybe limit it to 6-8). If you think your crowd would actually adhere to the bracelets, I say go for it! Otherwise, I would consider other precautions.

Hi there! I'm not going to be attending any indoor events until my country reaches herd immunity so also I'm not your audience. However, theoretically I would wear a button stating keep distance because from what I've seen, people are forgetting that risk is still active.

I think it's a great idea in theory. However, I also think that if guests are going to choose a red bracelet, they probably will not be attending the wedding in the first place. If you guys think your guests would appreciate it, go for it! I just don't want you to be disappointed if your guests do not use them

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This is a good point too

I think this is a good idea. I am probably your target audience for this as I am vaccinated, would go to a wedding, wouldn’t wear a mask unless required, but I am still nervous shaking hands and hugging people and it can be awkward/I forget sometimes to object before people start to hug me. For that reason alone I do really like this idea. Honestly all I would want is a button that says please don’t touch me.

I don't think they are necessary - if people are going to your wedding, then it means they are comfortable enough to be around a group of people. If people aren't so comfortable, they'll wear a mask and create their own limits - or just not go.

I think that if your guests are able to decide to attend or not, they're also able to dictate what they're comfortable with. This is overkill.

View Quoted Comment Honestly, in life all I want is a button that says “please don’t touch me” 😂 I’d love for us to never return to hand shaking. I’ve always found it disgusting lol.

Personally, I think the intention is good, but it would probably end up being a waste of money more than anything else. They can easily be covered up accidentally with a sleeve and many people won't even look for them in the first place. We didn't have them for my wedding (3 months ago) and they weren't necessary. Our experience, from what we saw others do and how they interacted directly with us, was that most people who showed up were "green". Those who weren't would typically stand about a step further back when talking. It was pretty visually obvious that they wanted to interact, but weren't comfortable with hugs, etc. For those few ambiguous people, we just said, "Hey, are you cool with a hug? No worries if not." It wasn't awkward and it cleared the air.

I love the intentionality of making sure everyone is comfortable, but I also think having sanitizer and masks available does more for that than a bracelet.