need idea on how to honor fiance's father who is deceased

I think i might need a tissue after reading these ideas. thanks. my FH's father is also deceased. i think a candle would be nice.

Another idea which I think I'm incorporating into my ceremony now which your FI could do as well is as my dad, stepmom, FIL, and mom walk down the isle, before they sit down I'm going to have a vase with Roses in it, and empty bud vases with only water and when they make their way up to the front have them each put a rose in a vase that's infront of the framed picture of their deceased parent (I'm going to have my mom go last since the anniversary of her dad/my grandpa is our Wedding Date). Your FI before the parents or even have his mom place a flower in a Vase or he can do it himself or even with his mom before the Bridesmaids and you walk down the isle.

Also since at my sister and BIL's Rehearsal Dinner my bro brought out his Karaoke Machine and we all got to give speeches if we wished. I mentioned to my sister how I knew our Grandfathers wouldn't be there in presence to share her Wedding with her, but knew they would be looking down from heaven on her. Let's just say after that, she was thanking me for reminding her that they were always with her in her heart and my dad who cries on special occasions certainly did when I mentioned that.

Doing a dance in memory of him would be a great idea. There's the song "I'm Already There" by Lonestar that is just beautiful! You could have your MC announce that it's in memory of your husband's father.

My sister passed away when I was very young (so was she) but I wanted her presence to be known at my wedding. I had a portrait of her in her own seat in the front row- where she belongs. I think that was something that worked for me and it didnt take over the wedding like having a slideshow where everyone has to stop and think about this family member who passed and get sad at the wedding. JMO, but it may be for you too. Best of luck!

I just did a poem for a bride to honor her father. She is going to have it on the back of the program. She was thrilled with the finished product. It was written in her voice from her heart and acknowledges the little touches she made in the choice of flowers and food to honor his memory.

I wrote this poem for my daughter's wedding. She printed it on a scenery picture & set it next to a picture of her Dad. Brides - feel free to use it or change it as needed.

There Was a Man

Who held me first

Who helped me stand

Who watched me take my 1st steps

Who taught me to ride a bike by letting go

Who encouraged me to do the best I could

Who took me camping, fishing, & hunting

Who took me on hiking & taught me to appreciate nature

Who taught me it was ok to act goofy, to laugh, to cry,

to be wrong so I could learn to be right but not vain

I am proud of this Man who taught me so much

Who set a example & molded me into the person I am today

Who taught me Love is worth waiting for

Who is not here to physically walk me down the aisle but

has been with me spiritually every step of the way

and has prepared me for this day

Thanks Dad

You Are Forever in My Heart

by Karen Cywinski

Both my & my fiance’s fathers have passed away, so we are going to play a song for them right before the ceremony while a family member from each side puts a red rose on each of their chairs. I’m wearing my dad’s wedding ring on a bracelet..... maybe your fiancé could wear something of his dad’s?? Then during our reception, instead of the father/daughter & mother/son dances we are doing a slideshow tribute to both of our parents. We’re going to play a song from my dad’s favorite singer from my parents’ & my fiance’s dad’s favorite group for his parents’. We might also include a short little note to each of our dads in the program. Not sure yet.....