So my future Mother-In-Law has been wanting to throw me a bridal shower because her friends all throw bridal showers for each other’s children. My Mother-In-Law has been helping her “crew” throw showers so now I guess it’s her turn.
I’ve talked to my fiance about it and told him I don’t want her to throw me a shower. I feel like it’s more of a party for her and not me. First of all I don’t really even know her friends. I’ve maybe met them a couple times. Second of all I don’t really have anyone from my side to invite. My mom probably won’t go because she’d feel uncomfortable (I don’t blame her…my mom thinks the shower should be something the bride’s side throws), and my friends live out of town. So it would just be me, my Mother-In-Law and all her friends at the party.
I told her if she wants to have one have it. If she doesn’t I’m more than fine with it. That was when she was going to have a limited number of guests at the wedding so I felt like ok, she could have her party even though I don’t want it. But my fiance knew I really didn’t want it, he talked to his mom and she called it off. That was over a month ago.
Today I get a text message with her saying her friends want to throw me a bridal shower. What day works for me and who do I want to invite so she can send out invitations.
Initially I wanted a small wedding. I still do but to compromised already told my Mother-In-Law she can invite how ever many people she wanted to the wedding. Her guest list had doubled. There will be 60 people from my fiance’s side, almost all my MIL’s friends. My side of the wedding is only close family. 20-25 people total. So at this point I really don’t want her to throw me a shower because I feel like her side is already dominating the wedding.
I don’t know if it would be very rude of me to go back on what I said that she can have the shower (even though my fiance said he doesn’t want it). I don’t want to cause a problem so I don’t know if I should grin it and bear it. But, I feel like it would be super awkward for me to sit at a bridal shower that’s supposed to be for me around people I don’t really know who are double my age. Thoughts
