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Need help deciding

Katie, on September 11, 2019 at 7:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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We have booked a place for our reception. My fiancé wants to get married in a chapel in the city. Also, the city has more options for pictures since our wedding is in winter. We are inviting about 170 people and the chapel only holds 100. He says not everyone will go to the ceremony but will go to the reception. Not everyone in my family will come either. But he couldn’t tell me who wouldn’t go to the ceremony for sure. Is it too much of a gamble? If more than 100 rsvp, we would have to tell some to go straight to the reception. There is a similar but bigger church not in the city but we lose that option of taking photos in the city which my fiancé wants those photos. He keeps saying it’s up to me but I think he really wants that little chapel. Also, I don’t like that it’s kinda dark and small. Since having the ceremony in a church is what he really wants, should I just book it even though I have concerns that the lighting is dark and it’s too small for me to get ready there. Will getting ready somewhere else and traveling in my ball gown dress to the ceremony be recommended?

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Latest activity by Tina, on September 13, 2019 at 9:59 AM

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Destiny · on September 11, 2019 at 7:12 PM
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Have you already sent the invites/stds? alot of people are going to say that you should only invite the number of people that your space can hold.
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Monique · on September 11, 2019 at 7:30 PM
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I would definitely only invite the amount of people that your venue can hold. It’s a huge risk otherwise. If you do invite over I would only recommend inviting over by about 15-30 people at the most. You may offend some people if you ask that they only attend your reception.
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Mandi · on September 11, 2019 at 8:08 PM
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My fiance's brother got married last year, and my FMIL told a ton of the guests to skip the ceremony and head straight to the reception. Maybe your FMIL could do that too. (Joking)

We recently attended a ceremony and were surprised by how many of our friends skipped the ceremony, but made it to the reception.

Could you possibly have a smaller ceremony with family only and then a reception with everyone? Just an option to consider.
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Lady · on September 13, 2019 at 9:45 AM
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This is super rude if you have to exclude people from the ceremony. I have never seen people skip the ceremony in favor of the reception other than one couple in very specific circumstances. Either cut your guest list to 100 or find another chapel to accommodate your whole guest list.
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Tina · on September 13, 2019 at 9:59 AM
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How far away is the city from the second chapel option? You could always go back into town for photos while your guests make their way to the reception. Having your ceremony in a dark, dank chapel where 3/4 of your guests can't attend just for good photo ops seems silly to me. The wedding day is about the ceremony and celebrating with those you love.
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