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Need advice: Workplace invites

Dm, on August 4, 2019 at 8:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Need some guidance! I am a leader at work with a number of direct reports- 1/2 are new...1/2 Ive worked with. I very much believe in separating work from social, and for wedding really only want to invite half bc they would honor my privacy and Ive worked with them longer. Because they would have to take off for my wedding, it would be apparent to the others more than likely that they would be invited bc everyone in my unit is so excited about my engagement.

i also have a boss who i have a good relationship with, but would not feel comfortable inviting her to the wedding (or feel that I could be myself...any thoughts -especially on direct report issue?

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Latest activity by Melle, on August 4, 2019 at 10:00 PM

Master August 2021
Jasmine · on August 4, 2019 at 9:01 PM
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Don't feel bad. You just happen to have a stronger relationship with some more than others. I'm sure they would understand and if they don't then that's unfortunate. The last thing you want is to feel obligated to invite someone and uncomfortably because you invited someone you're close with but have to watch yourself.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 4, 2019 at 9:06 PM
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I wouldn't feel bad either. It's up to you who you invite!
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VIP September 2019
Yam · on August 4, 2019 at 9:09 PM
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Don’t feel bad, people understand weddings are expensive and not everyone can come. I only invited a few coworkers, people I consider actual good friends, not just workmates. No one has any hard feelings about it(it helps I’m letting everyone be my guinea pigs for our dessert table recipes) but everyone’s an adult. They aren’t going to throw a fit you can’t invite them.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 4, 2019 at 9:20 PM
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It's up to you who's invited to the wedding. Nobody should ever feel entitled to an invitation!
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Dedicated August 2020
Madison · on August 4, 2019 at 9:50 PM
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Do you socialize with these people outside of work or work-related HHs? Those are the people that I would consider important enough to be apt of the big day. Either way, it is up to you - no one is entitled to an invitation.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 4, 2019 at 10:00 PM
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Yea I don't really think all coworkers tend to believe they'd be invited to such a thing.
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