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Dedicated September 2020

Need... advice? To vent?

Kara, on January 7, 2020 at 9:47 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 8

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So my fiancé and I have been engaged since February 2019 and have had our date secured for about just as long. My MOH is literally my oldest, first friend and gladly accepted the role ~2 months later. She and her bf travel a lot, so our wedding date was put in both of their calendars so they didn’t book anything for our wedding this year in 2020.

Now, she and her bf got engaged the day before NYE, which we kind of knew was coming and I couldn’t be more happy for her. 2 days later she called to tell me the details, and she tells me her fiancé “surprised” her at the proposal by having a church and venue already booked.... for the weekend before our wedding of this year!!!!!!
I’m upset, and mildly freaking out. I know it’s not her fault if he truly went and did this. She did tell me she’s trying to move it to 2 weeks after ours, but I don’t know if she’s even had that conversation with her fiancé yet. 🙁 FH thinks I should change MOHs.
Again I don’t know what I need if it’s advice or if I just wanted to vent .

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Latest activity by Givemeallthepups, on January 7, 2020 at 11:41 AM

Devoted December 2020
Morgan · on January 7, 2020 at 9:57 AM
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If she thinks she can still handle being maid of honor then I would let her!! But I would ask her if she’ll be too stressed out with her wedding and yours and go from there before changing anything😊
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VIP October 2020
Taylor · on January 7, 2020 at 9:57 AM
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I wouldn't change MOH's. Her only obligation is to show up in her bridesmaid dress. The fact that she's getting married shouldn't change her ability to do that. I'd check and see what their honeymoon plan is though. It'll be hard for her to be at your wedding if she's on her honeymoon. Regardless, don't find another MOH. If she can't come, you'll just have bridesmaids and it will be fine! I'm sure they'd all be happy to assist you with whatever you need.
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Master January 2015
null · on January 7, 2020 at 10:09 AM
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Unless your MOH comes to you to say that she doesn't want to be MOH anymore because she's planning her own wedding, I wouldn't switch her out for someone else.
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Champion July 2019
Veronica · on January 7, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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Although it is upsetting, I wouldn't switch MOH as that is a friendship ending move. I would continue with planning your wedding as you already were. You may not like when her wedding is, but it really shouldn't affect yours.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 7, 2020 at 11:01 AM
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I don’t see the problem. Being married in no way affects her participation in your wedding.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on January 7, 2020 at 11:16 AM
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I'm honestly not seeing the problem unless she is planning to go on her honeymoon right after the wedding and won't be able to come to your wedding.
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Dedicated September 2020
Kara · on January 7, 2020 at 11:38 AM
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Thanks guys. I guess I just needed a little reassurance after the initial shock. FH (and I) think it was kind of a rude move, but I’m not asking much of anyone in my wedding party. I didn’t want to change MOH at this point so I’m glad that’s the unanimous consensus. It’s just a lot to do in 2 weeks but manageable I suppose!
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Expert February 2020
Givemeallthepups · on January 7, 2020 at 11:41 AM
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I’m getting married three weeks before I’m maid of honor in a wedding and it hasn’t been bad at all. The only challenge really was coordinating dates for showers and bachelorette trips. Fortunately, as the bride and the MOH I had say in dates for all events at both weddings.
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