Robin
Just Said Yes February 2022

Need advice on wedding planning and postpone

Robin, on September 19, 2021 at 11:24 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
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Engaged 7/2021, wedding scheduled for 2/2022. Already have a venue booked. I have had an anxiety disorder most of my life and due to recent medication changes that felt necessary (because I don’t think those meds were working) everything became worse. Crippling anxiety and fear on a daily basis, working with a doc and seeing a counselor weekly. A month ago I planned to go dress shopping this upcoming weekend and although excited there is no way to tell if I will be able to function due to anxiety/panic attacks. I want to postpone everything honestly so I can really focus on getting better. FH is not happy about this and I have people coming in from out of town for dress shopping with me. I could maybe grin and bear it through dress shopping if I’m having anxiety, although ideally these events are joyous. Although planning a wedding is stressful I don’t feel stressed about that exactly. It is more physical symptoms of anxiety and panic that interrupt my day and life. I am even on disability from work due to this issue. Im wondering fellow bride’s thoughts/feelings on this topic - anyone experience similar things? Thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by Robin, on September 22, 2021 at 9:01 PM
  • Robin
    Just Said Yes February 2022
    Robin ·
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    *** title should read: Need advice on wedding planning and postpone** Thank you for reading and sorry if it’s too personal! 😊
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  • JM Sunshine
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    For your sake, have you considered eloping or a micro-wedding?
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    This was my thought as well. Eloping seems to be a good option based on the level of anxiety you described. Perhaps a micro-wedding with very few people could work too.
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  • Robin
    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    I want to elope or have a micro wedding but my partner wants a ceremony for some reason. I think a big part of his reason is because others are paying for the wedding.
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  • Robin
    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    If we decide on a micro wedding, how do I explain this change to people I already sent ‘save the dates’ to?
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
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    I’d simply explain that your wedding plans changed and you’ve decided to have a very intimate ceremony instead. Plus, these days, there isn’t much explaining needed because our lives have all been scaled back in many ways.


    My firsthand example: we originally planned a 2020 wedding and sent save the dates. Then we postponed to 2021 and sent another set of save the dates. Then recently (only 2 months before the wedding) we decided to cancel everything and elope with just the two of us. So we text cancellation notices. Ultimately, guests don’t dictate the direction of your wedding plans. That’s between you and your FH since it’s the 2 of you who are the ones getting married.
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  • Samantha
    Devoted May 2022
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    Sorry to be the one to say this, but I would reconsider marrying someone who doesn't understand your needs.

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  • Robin
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    There’s obviously a lot more to this than I’ve shared here. Please keep that in mind when responding to others posts. But thanks for responding.
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