Need Advice - Elderly guest travel.....

Personally, I would do whatever was necessary to make sure my grandmother could be there. I guess you just need to weigh your priorities. Is it more important to have her there or is it more important to have it in the Winter?

Additionally, it's not that we won't consider a summer wedding, it's just I feel we are already limited and accommodating his families availability and by using his grandmother's health as an excuse when they are already putting her health into jeapardy traveling her into high altitude at 90 by car, it's not fair for me to give up the wedding of our dreams when they won't even consider compromising with other options.

I also am concerned about her being in high altitude, coming to CO from sea level I've read can take up to 5 days of acclimation for elderly individuals, and with having a stroke a few years back I'm just bewildered this hasn't been considered.

They've shut down any and other alternative idea I've proposed.

- leaving grandma home and setting up a live wedding feed & visiting her a week later to celebrate

- travel by plane, train, bus rather than car to allow for more flexible date options

- provide wheelchair for her when commuting to and from outside

- do a second family ceremony there

You can't control them. All you can do is control how you react to them. So once again, the decision is yours. You just have to decide what's important, and make the decision.

This definitely sounds unfair, but it doesn't make the outcomes any different. The bottom line is, is it more important for her to be there, or more important to have your wedding in a specific season?

I'm not trying to be judgy or sound judgy. It's honestly your decision and I wouldn't fault you either way you choose. But it does end up being your decision- you can't control them, and if they won't change, how are you going to react?

Also, since it's his family, I'd recommend letting him deal with them. He's more well versed in specific family dynamics, and they may react better hearing it from him versus (what they may consider) a crazy future wife. (Not that I'm saying you are, but his family may see it that way!)

I think this depends on how close to his grandparents FH is. Which is more important? A winter wedding or grandma being there?

Very true. I feel like at the end of the day it's more his family simply not wanting to commute in anything but summer-like weather and using ice as their reason behind it to be perfectly honest. *sigh* the hunt for the perfect time continues...