Need advice!! Both of my siblings just got engaged!

I can’t tell you why you’re stressed but could it be because you feel pressured to be next? Or because you might be in both weddings around the same time? Idk for me personally sometimes happy events make me stressed too its just a lot of information and new situations at the same time can be overwhelming

It sounds like you're feeling pressured to be next in line to get engaged? Correct me if I'm wrong!

As the oldest of three and the last one to get married, I can tell you that you can't rush love especially during COVID. If family members start asking about it (or giving you the same old questions: "so who's your special person?" or "when will you be next?") just remind them that you are a completely different person in comparison to your siblings and your path will not be the same as theirs. Own your journey... don't stress about who's getting married and when or why... Be you!

Being stressed wondering if your home is about to become a nuthouse, and you not knowing your place in it all? Yeah, I would call that normal! We have had 4 periods of 2 or more getting engaged then married within a year, or as little as 3 months, but mostly 5-8 months. 9 of us, and 2 married twice 5-6 years apart, 1 widowed 1 divorced. Each time there have been 2-3 of us in a year, then a break. I found it relaxed and fun being in my teens for the first 3. I was the only one, and 4 first cousins living within 5 miles til college then spread all in the Boston area at colleges. o brought up the end of a group of 3 in one spring summer fall, 5 years later, working hard / playing when possible. Then played big sister. It is what you make of it. We are a large, close, and loving family, and what could be more romantic than someone putting on a party with dancing at least once a month, while engaged. Nobody was crazy, or possessive or nuts. 3 sets of in laws turned out to be mean, or narcissistic, or functioning alcoholics who turned nasty. But the kids marrying in to the family were great. 3 of my 5 younger brothers and sisters married a friend or in-law relative they met at one of us older kids weddings or wedding process. My one very shy youngest sister, and quietest younger brother always had dates, girlfriends or boyfriends, through all our wedding times. And felt kind of on their own a couple years doing grad school work, and each met " the one" in their first job after finishing grad work. .....Having 2 working on weddings was nice. No prima donnas or persons totally impressed by their own wonderfu
lness. I was actually impressed by how much everyone co-operated witheach other. And after the years of school dividing us, and each having friends outside the family, we each began to socialize more with family than with all school friends, 3 and 4 brothers and sisters at once. It brought us closer, just before marrying, and we have stayed that way. Talk with each other, not at each other. Listen a lot. Enjoy it.

View Quoted Comment It’s not so much That I feel real pressure to be next although I have gotten that question already but I feel like my role is the same but very different in both scenarios. My sister and I are very close but very different. I’m not a dress up, nails, hair done, make up on person like her. It works for us still cause when I have questions on the occasional want to do some of these things she’s there but I think maybe I just know I’m gonna be waaaaaaayyy out of my comfort zone. Idk honestly. But I’m going to try to not think about that part lol thanks for responding.

View Quoted Comment I didn’t even finish my thought lol on my brothers side it’s gonna be way different in general. We all grew up together but my siblings don’t share the same parents. I have the same dad as my brother and same mom as my sister. We lost our dad a few years ago so it’s been emotional. I don’t really know that I’m gonna be out my comfort zone in this one because me and my brother are very much alike but far more emotional than I think.

View Quoted Comment I home you can tap into those emotions,even if just short conversations regularly. Do you get along with his fiance?

View Quoted Comment Oh very much so. I get along with both fiancé’s.
We’ve known my brothers fiancé for a long time now. The emotional part i think is that my dad can’t be here and we all wish he could have been so it makes it hard and especially with 2 weddings now. There is all drama with my siblings other side of their family’s so I just want to be there for them like we have been out whole life. Maybe that’s the pressure rather than me feeling pressured to marry.