Skip to main content
ARE YOU A VENDOR?

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

K
Just Said Yes April 2022

Need advice at possibly kicking my future sil out of my bridal party

Karena, on March 6, 2022 at 1:56 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
Saved
Reply
Soooo i need some advice! my future sister in law has always been pretty hard to get along with. i got engaged over a year and a half ago and i asked her to be in the bridal party because i felt like it was the right thing to do. now that things are getting closer to our wedding, we have the ball rolling on upcoming plans. well my MOH has been planning my bach and my SIL doesn’t respond in ANYTHING! so recently she texted her asking for a deposit on our room and she said she didn’t have the money which fine but was asked when she can get it to her by and no response. so a follow up text was sent 3 weeks later and she was very sassy and had major attitude about but sent it. well now we are planning flights and again info was sent in the group chat and FSIL was the only one who again didn’t respond so they had to text her separately and she was very snappy and passive aggressive abs went on to personally text me saying she’s tired of my “petty ass friends and the weird comments” which NOBODYYY is being snippy toward her and she’s the one being a B**** back so she said she would rather communicate with me directly and was very straight up with her and told her that i read all convos and she is the one who is acting a way and i’m not really sure how vacationing together and having events to still do together is gona work if she can’t even get along with anyone and i’m looking for positive vibes only!!!! she’s already thrown sass at two of my bridesmaids and called me a bridezilla so it seems like she is not happy with anyone at this point but i have so much respect for my fiancé that i don’t want to add family drama. what should i do?

8 Comments

Latest activity by Jacks, on March 6, 2022 at 6:33 PM
  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Everybody should be involved in planning the budget of the bach but if she's not involved in the conversation how can she be complain about it, right? To me it sounds like she doesn't want to be involved with these pre-wedding events. If she doesn't have the money, time, or even desire to talk to your friends then don't make her do it. She can still be a bridesmaid at your wedding and not go to these events. As long as she gets her dress and knows when the wedding is, she just needs to show up.
    • Reply
  • L
    Super August 2023
    Lunajay ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Defiantly agree with Candace. Sound like she might not have the money or she is finding a way to come up with money. If she lives close I would take her to lunch to talk and see where things are at with her. Since you have a month left I would just make sure if she is okay with everything that is going on. Maybe it could be that she doesn't really know your friends she feel that "why is she asking for my money".

    • Reply
  • D
    Dedicated October 2018
    Deb ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I agree with the other ladies. She may not be able to afford it or is worried about being away overnight with woman she doesn’t know and isn’t expressing it in a positive way. She can still be in your bridal party without going to these events. I think kicking her out would make more drama then it is worth.

    • Reply
  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2022
    Karena ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    She definitely has the money. she asked if she could bring her 16 year old daughter to my bach and i’m sure it was because she feels outnumbered. we left the idea in the air when my bridal party got together and followed up with her a week later to let her know it wouldn’t be a good idea and she just never answered. we all went ahead and booked our flights last night except her so idk at this point. i prefer her not to come if there’s going to be unnecessary attitude toward the others. she’s really good at always playing victim so maybe i should just let her know she doesn’t have to come…idk!
    • Reply
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Sorry what does her going to the bachelorette have to do with being in the wedding party? I would definitely not kick her out. Imagine years of family dinners with her feeling some type of way and you as the bad guy. She's done nothing wrong, as far as I can see.

    I'm not sure you can be the one to determine her budget for her, but maybe she really doesn't want to spend money on a trip with your friends? If that's the case, that's totally OK.

    • Reply
  • K
    Just Said Yes April 2022
    Karena ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    It’s not that she doesn’t want to go. she does. she asked me to change the dates so that she could go which we did but now is being so hard to get along with. she is even choosing to fly alone at this point 🤷🏻‍♀️
    • Reply
  • K
    Beginner July 2022
    Kathryn ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Girl i’m gonna be completely blunt with you. You need to consider taking a step back and taking a neutral position. SIL means family, and Its not a good idea to damage family relations before you’re even married. This will cause long term drama. Think of family events, complaints to your in laws and FH ect. It’s not worth it! They’re big girls and can work out disputes on their own. Talk to her about not being on top of things when it comes to your wedding, but don’t get involved in her disputes with your friends. Your friends need to respect that she is your future family and you invited her. They may not like her ( you may not even like her), but they have to deal with her. If you kick her out, you may get positive vibes for your bachelorette, but you’ll lose all of that thereafter for everything involving family.
    • Reply
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    OK, putting that aside.

    What does the bachelorette have to do with being in the wedding party? I mean, it's not mandatory. It's an invitation to go on a trip, not a summons.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×

Related articles

18 Late-Night Wedding Snacks to Keep the Party Going
Wedding Reception 18 Late-Night Wedding Snacks to Keep the Party Going Fuel your guests on the dance floor (and surprise them with one final treat)...
22 Show-Stopping Outfits for Your Wedding After-Party
Wedding Fashion 22 Show-Stopping Outfits for Your Wedding After-Party Keep the party going with an outfit change into one of these jaw-dropping looks....
5 Ways to Build Your Relationship with Your Future In-Laws
Relatives 5 Ways to Build Your Relationship with Your Future In-Laws You're not just marrying the love of your life—you're joining their family as...
Read more articles
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

Show more

WeddingWire article topics