Need a little help

Have you booked a venue yet? That's one of the only things I can think of that really needs to happen soon

Not yet, trying to narrow it down. When I bring it up he gets all huffy an puffy like I shouldnt be thinking about this yet.

Venues and caterers book the earliest, so I don't think it's too soon for either of those. As for everything else, you have to do what works best for you. I have found that the earlier you start researching, the better deals you can find. It doesn't mean you have to book all your vendors now, but research takes time. I was so happy to have had more than a year to do all the research necessary to get the best prices.

I personally think it is never to soon to start planning, it’ll be very stress free that way. But out of curiosity, when is your date?

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I agree!!! I feel like the earlier I start doing research and narrowing down the better. I think he feels like I might overwhelm him with stuff. Im not pushing stuff in his face or anything Im just trying to get his input

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10-31-2020

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And that's totally reasonable. But since he seems to be feeling overwhelmed already, you might want to keep the details to yourself for now. Like, with venues, do as much research as you need to narrow it down to 2 or 3 places. Then show him the narrowed-down choices. He doesn't necessarily need all the nitty gritty details of how you arrived at those 2 or 3. Then schedule some tours of those choices so you can see them and talk to the coordinators about the packages available, etc.

Do that with each vendor: research on your own, narrow it down to a couple of choices, then bring in FHs opinion.

View Quoted Comment Definitely start planning now! He’s not understanding the time and stress planning a wedding is. Definitely look into venues, DJs, photographers now. Even start looking for your dress pretty soon. Now is the time for a lot of things!

That’s only a little over a year away, that’s a normal time frame to be booking venues and photographers.

But he does understand he was married once before, so was I. He had a big wedding the first time. I already have my dress picked out

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Thank yo Cristy!!!!!

The sooner the better, in my opinion, it's less you have to stress about later and lets you enjoy your engagement. I would just let him know that venues book fast but this is the only thing he'll have to choose this "soon". That way you'll be able to do some research with your venue in mind and be planning while waiting for him to be ready to plan. Maybe chose your top 2 or 3 venues and have him choose from those so it's a simple 2-word answer. "That one" Happy planning!

I definitely don't think you're planning too early. My fiancé said the same thing when I started planning in July until he realized that this kind of stuff needs to be booked months (or even a year) in advance to get what you want! My FH is not a fan of wedding planning at all and has told me to just do what I want. I told him that what I want is to ask for his opinions because I want to know he likes the things I'm planning. So we made a deal, I only come to him with yes/no questions (Hey do you like these flowers?) and I try my very hardest not to bug him with wedding talk ALL the time

Starting in like a week I will DEF start asking the yes an no questions. Ladies THANK YOU. My first wedding was the court house an nothing more not even a party later on. You all are such a big help and Im glad you are here to help

I eventually just had to tell fiance "we are starting to plan now. Either get on board, or be miserable and fight me about it that's the only choice you have." He is just a big procrastinator.