Narcissistic Mother...why do I even bother?

...and my hair will be up like this, with tendrils. What kind of jewelry do you think I should wear? Etc etc. Such a horrible experience! The consultant actually made a comment about how pretty I looked in my dress. My mom thought it was directed toward her and said, "thank you! I feel great in it" The consultant said " yeah, you look nice, too but I was talking about your daughter." I felt like such an idiot. Everyone else was there with their moms doting on them and helping them and here is my mom acting so self absorbed. The most she could say was that my dress is pretty and it'll look really great once I lose 15 pounds! Why did I even take her? I feel just awful!

That is really sad to hear. I really hope that you have some other support figure that can be there for you like she should. It really is dissapointing when you have to go through things like this. But time and time again I have had to remind myself that I would rather surround myself with people that care and not worry myself with people that don't.

I never brought my mother with me to get my dress because I chose not to have that negativity around me. It is a shame and it sucks, hit my life is better without her.

I hope that she opens her eyes and sees what she is missing ❤

I have a coworker who is going through something similar, it sounds awful and I'm so sorry

And you took her because she's your mom and despite all past experiences, I'm sure you still hope that SOMETHING will make her behave the way she is supposed to. Since she can't, I hope you can surround yourself with other people who are excited for you and can not focus on themselves for just one day.

Thank you, both! I do have a wonderful fiance and great family and friends. My step-mother is really great, so at least I have her. I guess I just always wanted that attention and approval from my mom. I envy those who have such great mother-daughter relationships. I've always felt like I had to be the parent and take care of her responsibilities because she has always been so concerned about herself. I have custody of my 13 year old brother because she wasn't living up to her responsibilities with him. Allison, you're right- there is always a glimmer of hope and there are times that she acts like a "normal" mom, but they are so few and far between. I just hope she will be "normal" on my wedding day.

She sounds like a piece of work. I am so sorry for you that your bridal experiences are being overshadowed by her. You might have to be prepared for an extreme version on your wedding day. John has legit concerns about his grandmother who sounds just like your mom, and he is doing his best to shield her from all of the wedding plans so she can't hijack anything and make it all about her.