Names on Invite?

Bride first. If bride's parents are hosting the wedding and have their last name on the invitation, you can put just the bride's first and middle. Otherwise, it should be the same for bride and groom.

Traditionally apparently the bride should be first. Unfortunately, my name (first+last) is much longer than FH's so that looks really weird on half the stationery we look at. So I'm tempted to just buck the tradition.

As parents, we're hosting, and have same last name as our daughter. So invitation was issued from us. Bride's name was only first and middle. Groom's name appeared as first middle last.

Technically, I'm a step-mother, but we never used that word. Her bio-mother was not involved in the planning, nor in contributing any $$$ towards the wedding. So her name was not on the invitation. That caused a boatload of nastiness directed at our daughter, not at my husband, who made that decision.

So she's not her mom because she couldn't pay?

@OP the bride's name goes first. We are using first and middle names, but saying "together with their parents" and listing their names at the top

@BoudreauToBe what order did you put the names of parents in? (His parents are helping, mine aren't if that makes a difference).

Traditionally the brides name goes first as it was custom for her parents to host. Now days, it's really up to you. There are a lot of different examples on Pinterest.

@Ruffian, I can understand why your daughter's FMIL would be upset. Even though you are paying, you could have listed the groom, son of dad's name and mom's name on the invitation. My H and I (technically the step-mom to my middle child) are contributing to her wedding while her bio mom is not. I would never expect her to leave off her mom's name.

@kate what order did you put them in? FH parents first or yours?

We didn't list parents on our invites since it's our wedding. We also put grooms name first because I filled out the website and just did. I don't think it really matters

Together with their parents,

My first, middle, last name

&

His first, middle, last name

blah blah blah

(we didn't list parents names)

Traditionally the brides parents names go on the invitation because they are hosting. That is no longer always (or even generally) true. Traditional wording:

Brides parents names

request the pleasure of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Brides first and middle name

to

Grooms full name"

@rosered my parents aren't contributing at all, but my in laws are. Would I only list them? I wasn't going to put any name, just parents, but my MIL insisted. I wonder if she knows that it's old fashioned and people no longer do it

We didn't list parents on our invites because we are the ones hosting. FHs name also came first because my name is way longer than his and I didn't like how it looked up top.

We had our parents names and our full names. H parents didn't contribute but I thought it was really disrespectful to leave them off just because they have less money.

We didn't bother listing out everyone's names. We just wrote what @QueSeraSera

Together with their parents,

My first, middle, last name

&

His first, middle, last name

It keeps people from having hurt feelings.

As far as parent contribution, mine have contributed a bit more than his, but his still did too, with us paying for the majority, so it seemed like too much to list all 4 parents names!

My parent are hosting (my dad actually surprised us with this) so our invitations went like this:

Mr. and Mrs. [Susan's parents]

request the honour of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Susan Catherine,

to

Michael [full name]

son of

[Michael's parents]