Name on announcements

Put what people know you by.

Emily Post says this about it: In the case of a divorced woman, “Mrs. Arthur Reynolds” is no longer an option. If she retains her former husband’s last name (and many women do so that their surname will be the same as their children’s) then Mrs. [or Ms.] Susan Reynolds is correct. If she reverts to her maiden name, Ms. is the correct title, as in “Ms. Susan Hughes.”

My divorced sister was still using her ex-husband's last name, (hyphenated) so we printed just her first, middle and formerly married last name on her invites. If you did not legally revert to your maiden name, I would use your current legal name.

ETA: to explain further: My sister was going by Mandy Gossett-Berry following her divorce, as she works as a financial rep and wanted to maintain her known name. The invitations read "Mandy Elizabeth Berry" - no hyphenated last name.

I hope this helps!

You should use the name by which you are recognizable. Sounds like you are legally hyphenated and your legal name is Sharon Maiden-ExHusband and socially, you go by Sharon ExHusband. Most of the people will not know who's wedding they are receiving an announcement, STD, or invitation for if you used Sharon Maiden. You should use either Sharon Maiden-ExHusband or Sharon ExHusband so the people who are currently in your life that would be receiving an invitation to your wedding won't think a stranger is inviting them to their wedding.

Use the name people know you by

I would use the name you're known by. Depending on how you're wording your invitations, I've seen people write something along the lines of "Sharon ExHusband, daughter of Mother and the late Father" or something like that. There are ways to pay homage to your late father while still using your known name.