Name Change

You could write the future (name) on some of your decorations or invitations to get the word out.

I would somehow have it referenced on your website, or just by word of mouth. A few people got us monogrammed gifts so that would've been really awkward if it was not the right last name lol.

I'd also have your FH wait to change his name legally until you're sure people are done sending checks... so far, every check we've received has been addressed to me and my FH, and our married last name (but... I'm not married yet so that's not even my name yet lol). Luckily we have a joint bank account so they've let us deposit it since it DOES have FH's legal name on it. BUT I am just advising this because people WILL assume that you're taking his current last name, and you'll probably get checks addressed to "FH and Angie FH'sCurrentLastName" and you don't want to have trouble depositing it if you show up to the bank with neither of you currently having that name.

View Quoted Comment Ah! Thanks for reminding me of this! My fiance is changing his to mine so this will be a problem I didn't think of!

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Yeah sure thing! As long as that's still his legal name when you go to deposit it, it shouldn't be a problem. Like I said they have let us deposit checks addressed to both of us with FH's last name even though that isn't my name yet, because it does still have his legal name!

The check deposit thing is real. My FILs gave us a check for our engagement with both our names on it. They used my current name, which was fine, but we didn't have a joint account yet. So yesterday, we had to go to my bank and add him to my account to be able to deposit the check.

Really depends how you want to handle it. We're both actually changing ours as well, but not telling until we're announced at the wedding. So it's a matter if you want the surprise factor or if you'd prefer everyone to know upfront. You could also make a hashtag that uses what the new last name is, to help everyone.

A friend of mine and her husband did the same thing when they got married. He changed his name first before the wedding and only told immediate family. That way when they did get married, my friend only needed to change her name once.

We did this, except husband took his father's name (had his mother's maiden name)

He went to the courthouse 2 months before and got his name changed.

In the FAQ questions on our website I had a question like should we address our card to Mr & Mrs maiden name. For my answer I put we are both changing our name and will be Mr & Mrs new name!

I also made sure to use his new last name on the invitation, and my mom and sister used in decor at the bridal shower.

We also shared by word of mouth that my husband was changing his name.

When my FSIL sent out her wedding invitations and save the dates, for the return address she put “the future Mr. & Mrs. Hislastname”. Thinking about it in hindsight maybe this is something you could consider to clear up any confusion about your name changing.

Choose what works best for the two of you!