Name change starting to loom

I'm struggling with this. I plan on changing my middle name to my maiden name. It's very important to my fh and that's what I try to focus on. And I do think it will be nice when we have kids to all have the same last name

Soooo I'm a teacher, and getting students to remember a new name is literally impossible. Seriously, one teacher got married in September and people are still using her maiden name.

Legally, I'm changing my name. But not professionally, if that makes sense? My name will be changed but I probably won't go by it. Students will still just call me my maiden name.

I am dropping my middle name and keeping my maiden name as the middle, so you could still keep that on your business cards without the hassle of hyphenating.

Unless it's just wedding nerves making you worry, I don't think you should have to get over it. If you're feeling that sense of loss, find something that works for you. Talk it through with someone, your FH, or a close family member.

I was sad to change my name. It was my name for 40 years and I was pretty attached to it. And, as ridiculous as it sounds I was sad to be the only one of my siblings with a different name...I felt like an outsider lol. I got over it though.

I changed mine, wasn't a problem and going on being married after 2 years it's a lot easier signing the married name (I was 41 when I got married). Issue is my CCs still have my maiden name and so does my passport. Just too lazy to change those and some of work logins still use my maiden name. I have to keep a list of what uses what!

@ Bemyguest that's a nice thing to do for your students! When I was in high school, there was a teacher that got divorced and remarried in less than 4 years, no one could figure out what to call her! We met her as Mrs.Nelms for a year and then it was Ms. Pappas and by the time we got used to that name it was a new darned married name and she would correct you if you used the wrong one... We need emojis.

I'm grappling with this as well! I keep going between hyphenating or adding my maiden name as a second middle name. I can't make up my mind and the closer the date comes the more anxious I get about it, I'll probably still be deciding right up until the very last moment lol.

I am because it is important to fh but I hateeeee his last name. Hate it. So it's gonna sick but im going to put it off as long as possible.

I have something in common with just about every one hear. I have not used my maiden name since it was child. He is my legal dad but I had no relationship. I was informal adopted as preteen. Never took? anew name since married kids dad. Kept name after divorced. I am teacher n kids know me by that name. I getting married in August to man I known for 20 years. I will change name but will not be easy.

@Bemyguest, that's a good idea! I may do that.

Thinking about changing my last name makes me so sad. Haha. But I'm so excited to take FH's last name. I just wish we could take his true last name instead of the Americanized version of it.

I've told FH that I'm getting my maiden name tattooed behind my ear so that I never really "lose it"

I have two middle names already, so making my maiden name a middle name is not a good idea.

Maybe for teachers you could wait and introduce your new name at the beginning of a school year? It would have the least confusion. It would probably be easier as an elementary teacher than as an secondary teacher, given the chances of teaching kids who have been in your class before.

I am changing my last name personally but am keeping my current last name at work. I've been at my company for 22 years so it's easier to keep my maiden name here. Lots of people do this in my company.

@A.Magill nope, we had an elementary school teacher when I was in middle school who was also our cheer coach, and NO ONE called her by the right name. Anywhere. It made her so mad, so as asshole middle school students we did it on purpose. But no one at any school called her by the correct name. Kids don't like change.

Date twin! Is it not insane that we are officially 6 months out?? I've been stressing, but hadn't thought much about the name thing. I am also certainly taking FH's name but to me the worst part is going from a name everyone can spell to one that will constantly be misspelled and mispronounced. Going to be an adjustment for sure.

I'm changing mine, and the only thing I'm sad about is having to start over with racing/marathon results, lol.

I can totally relate to what you're saying. I look around at my female friends and realize one by one we're getting new names. It's different for us than it is for our FH's.

I have decided to take FH's last name, and make my maiden name a 2nd middle name. So First Name, Middle Name, Maiden Name, Last Name. For most documents I would only provide one middle name, but license and SS card will have both. At work I'm planning to change my email signature to First Name, Maiden Name, Last Name for a while to ease the transition.

I felt the same way - I couldn't wait to get rid of my name because like you, I have no relationship with my biological father and wanted to get rid of the last trace of him that I had. Then when it got time to do it, I was a little emotional, since that's still who I'd been for 28 years! But the feeling didn't last long, because I was so happy to have my husband's name, and it really did feel liberating to lose that last piece of my biological dad.

I had a bit of a challenge with it at work since I am a high school teacher, and even though I started the new school year with my new name, I had students who I had previously had still calling me by my maiden name (I didn't care, I understood why - they'd known me for so long with it) and then students calling me by my new name, and some students (mostly freshmen) getting confused about the other name people were calling me....it was a lot! But now an entire class has cycled through and now no students know me as anything other than my married name.

@Kate not that I want you to post your name, but how many letters per name? lol

@MAMW I'll have to wait 4 years for kids who don't know me by my current name because I have some freshmen. I just don't care. Plus I like my maiden name and it's a compromise for me!

I'm so excited too change my name!