Name change... any regrets?

I'm looking at doing this same thing! At first I didn't think I would mind dropping my current last name it as we get closer I've been feeling sad about not having it anymore. FH told me it's all up to me. I will be taking his last name without a doubt but having my current last name be my second middle name. I love my middle name now and it's my grandmas as well so I was never going go drop that.

I keep going back and forth! I also love my middle name and don't want to drop it. It's tough because no one can make the decision for you or tell you what is best.

I'm planning the same! I go by my maiden name, so I'd feel totally weird if it was suddenly not my name anymore. I love my maiden name, so I see no regrets!

That is the same reason I want to keep my middle name. It is a tradition in my mom's side. That would truly leave me with something from both sides of my original family and a tie to my new family. My concern is that my name will be super long. Is that a logistical issue?

@maybride I already have 2 middle names and it doesn't really posses any problems. On places where there's only a spot for a middle initial or one middle name I use my first one (like childhood school forms) but on other legal documents like my license and passport both are on there.

Still have no idea what I'm going to do when I get married because 5 names seem excessive to me....

I was adopted twice and had the honor of changing both my middle and last name. Now that I'm getting married, the thought of losing the names I fought so hard for was heartbreaking, but I know I want to take my fiance's name. I have decided to keep my maiden name as a second middle name - which 50-80 years ago was not that uncommon! In the late 19th century, it was very common to have more than 1 middle name, and in certain heritages (Scottish, Scandinavian) it is down-right odd not to have several.

I used my maiden name as my middle name for my first marriage This time I'm just switching to his last name and keeping my middle name since both my daughter and granddaughter share it. There is no prefect way. Just go with your feeling

I'm doing this next week too! I have no middle name, so it works out pretty conveniently to move my maiden name to middle and take my husband's last name. (I always wanted a middle name as a kid so now I'll finally have one, lol!)

I'm changing mine on my wedding day. I have no attachment to my last name.

I'll be adding my maiden name to my middle name. FH didn't want me to hyphenate so that was our compromise. It's so difficult in NY though. Actually have to request court order name change.

As someone who has lived with a last name that's spelled as two words all my life, a big plus is that dealing with computer systems and such will be much easier if you move maiden to middle rather than hyphenating!

While it's part of my personal and professional identity, I have really complicated baggage attached to my maiden name. I will not be keeping it. If FH's last name wasn't so much easier to say and spell and if it didn't come from the exact same part of the world as mine, I might feel differently.

I just did it this morning! I moved my maiden name to be a second middle name. I did not want to drop my middle name as it is my grandmother's middle name (and if I have a daughter I would like to pass it to her). But I didn't want to completely drop my maiden name as I have accomplished a lot professionally with it. It looks long on paper but unless I'm signing legal documents I'll just sign my first and new last name.

I'm in the process of adding my maiden name as a second middle name. It's a bit of a headache to deal with the DMV to add the second middle name (at least here in PA) but I'm happy to have my maiden name still a part of my name.

I wouldn't go so far as to say I regret it, but I have had to spell my last name more times in the past 6 months than I had in my entire 40 years. "No, not B like boy, V like Victor."

This is exactly what I'm doing (in the middle of it right now). I had always planned to give up my middle name and take my maiden as my middle when I got married, but the more I thought about it the more I didn't want to give any of them up. My sisters both did the same thing and they haven't had much trouble logistically.

That's exactly what I did! To keep my middle name, which is a family name, and my maiden name, which is my heritage. Socially I go by my married last name. No regrets at all!

I am doing the very same thing. I do not have any brothers and so my maiden name will not be carried on by anyone in my immediate family. My current middle name is also so important to me. When my parents write me letters or cards they always write them to me using first and middle. My FW was confused as to why I wanted four names but after I explained it she understood. I love that I am not the only one who is attached to my current name.

I'm planning on doing the same thing! I'm also going back and forth on not changing my name at all. I love my last name, and I'm not sure I want kids, so having the same last name as FH might not matter. He wants me to take his name, but he said he would support me either way. It's just a difficult choice I wish I had thought out more before I got so close to the wedding

That's what I'm doing!

My aunt did this (although she completely dropped her middle name for her maiden name) and she is very happy with the decision. My sister used to work at a school and she said when parents had different last names than their children (if the mother chose to keep her maiden name, or the child had the mother's last name and the father's was different) things would get very confusing and more difficult to organize.

That said, I have yet to change my last name. I am seriously lagging to the point where DH has asked me if I don't want to change my name anymore!