Nagging dress thoughts

Before I even got engaged I knew what kind of dress I wanted to get married in. I wanted lace, a line, and long sleeves. I discovered Hayley Paige a few years back so I fell in love with those dresses and that’s what I planned on getting. Anyways, when I first got engaged my mom, MOH/sister and I decided to make an appointment at the small dress boutique in our small town. I planned on just trying dresses on and not purchasing, just to see what I look best in. So this store was a wonderful experience, and I found a dress I LOVE, and I still love it and can not wait to get it in to put it back on. (There’s pictures on my profile). However, this dress is NOTHING like I planned and the store was labeled as “bohemian” and they really didn’t carry A-line or anything like that. They assured me I could add sleeves to any dress, but that made me nervous so I just stuck with the capped sleeves. While I love my dress, I am kind of sad that I am not wearing me dream dress. I didn’t even try one on because they didn’t carry anything similar, so I have no idea what it would’ve even looked like. Everyone expected I’d be wearing sleeves because that’s what I’ve always said and when I told them I wasn’t everyone was super surprised. I told this to my FH and he made me feel worse by telling me that I should’ve shopped around more. He thought he was being supportive and was telling me I should put my dress on hold and shop some more, not knowing that this was not an option. He was trying to help but made me feel really bad. I’m trying to just let it go but it’s hard because I see all these gorgeous a line and ball gown dresses on this app and instagram and everything and it always makes me a bit sad. I also feel like this is a super selfish and dumb thing to be down about to that doesn’t help either lol.


Has anyone else experienced this or have advice? It’s like a weird form of dress regret.