My wedding was a disaster!! What should do now?

Me and my fiancé have been together for 8 years. He has wanted me to marry him for a long time but I hesitated for some time because he had a lot more family and work freinds he wanted to involve and he seems to get lost in socializing when he is around too many people. He promised me if we got married he would stay by me the whole time and he promised we would be a team on our wedding day.

My wedding was on 09-02-18. Originally we were going to have our wedding at my grandmas house and I was going to have our local college do our professional catering for cocktail hour as well as doing a buffet style reception dinner.i an a vegetarian and my family does not eat hydrogenated oils or high fructose corn syrup. I also really wanted my family to connect to the ceremony. My mom never got married and my family is not very religious . I planned my wedding for a year but three months before our wedding date my fiancé godfather offered to be the officiant as well as offered to buy us a larger wedding venue so my fiancé could invite more of his family and friends , I agreed hesitantly .



I found an Airbnb venue that my fiancé’s god father agreed upon. He ask me to give him a playlist and he had great people to be a DJ and really nice DJ speakers and setup. I had a 100+ I gave to him while we went out to dinner. My fiancé’s god father sat there and entered each song into his computer asking me about artists and asking if he can add songs. It was insane in the middle of cocktail hours he came up to me and said he only had 5 songs from the playlist it was crazy. The venue owner told him when he gave her the deposits we needed to bring our own restrooms,chairs, tables and everything basically we needed to bring in . My fiancé god father put down the down payment and acted like it wasn’t a problem. He then tells us he will take care of catering.

He says that this person he knows will caterer our wedding and it will be way better then Our local collage catering. We get in a tiff but let his god father have his way since he was paying. He told us don’t worrie about it they have cooked for the Sonics team and he is the gratest caterer. It gets closer to and closer to the wedding date. I keep asking to try the food. I keep reminding him about the bathrooms.

A t this point I have scheduled a carriage to take me from the front of the farm the the river ceremony space.i made sure we had fresh flowers, a arch, my mom has a bakery and made my cake and sweets table, i scheduled a potato bar caterer to come out just to do a mashed potato/sweet potato setup because I was nerves about the food this random person he hirers would bring. I made sure we had all the supplies for the alcohol bar. Including a special drinking bar fountain that never got setup. We had all the tree ceremony supplies.

so a week before the wedding his god father showed us what he wants to say for the ceremony. It was very religious and projective. Said nothing that related to us and made me feel uncomfortable. I also noticed there was nothing about the tree ceremony and what it represents. I exspressd this to his god father as well as my fiancé. My fiancé and me told him our feelings. He gets very mad and text me in the morning asking if I’m still getting married? It was a shock and really weird. Then my fiancé calls him and asks him to please take the Bible verses we did not like out and to please add more about the tree ceremony.

His god father reassured us the ceremony will be beautiful, perfect and not to worrie about it. The day before my wedding my fiancé was suppose to stay the night at the AIR BNB venue with his best man to set up all the tables, bar, sighns and all the little diy projects that were done but just needed to be set out.

Long story short I did not have a relaxing night before the wedding. I could not get ahold of my fiancé. I wake up and head straight to the venue to find everything a mess and hungover/ passed out people all over my trashed venue. I had to get my makeup and hair done well getting staring at and watching how hungover everyone is and how bad everything looks. We decided we would have to just see each other before the ceremony instead of waiting till I walk down the aisle. My fiancé starts having a aditude and avoiding me because he know he did absolutely nothing he promised me he would do. The flowers were dropped off but NEVER got put out by his groomsmen. after my hair and makeup was done I ran around the venue and put up my own arch Flowers’s and aisle flower petals with my bridesmaids. My fiancé’s god father is down in the ceremony space just sitting there and doesn’t ask once if I need help.

Im running around in my robe all the way up until all the guests are arriving and I’m still trying clean up The mess my fiancé made the night before. My fiancé’s god father stays down in the ceremony space for hours all the way up up until the ceremony starts. I ride down to the ceremony space in my horse and carraige . I arrive and see a ugly cooler up on the table with no table cloth. Behind the arch on the floor there is the little tree for our tree ceremony that is suppose to be on the table.. The tree is on the floor with no water.

His god father starts the ceremony and says all the Bible verses and EVERYTHING we asked him not to say. Then we try to discreetly say we don’t want to do the tree ceremony because he did not put it on a table or bring water!

H e has the microphone and forces a weird gettoh tree ceremony. He asks for a water from the audience ! Out of the ugly gettoh cooler he put in the back of the ceremony space. There was only PEPSI in the cooler! Then someone gave us there water bottle that was sitting in the audiance and just my daughter and fiancé get to dump the water bottle into the tree. It was sooo embarrassing! I feel his god father ruined our ceremony on purpose because I didn’t agree with his preaching/ aggressive Bible verses at my wedding .

We get to cocktail hour and dinner and everything besides the potatoes had meat even the SALAD. The food maid my whole family sick and have to run to the bathroom. As soon as we had cocktail hour my fiancé gets drunk so fast we he never got any pictures with his family. We had a first dance we practiced for months and never preformed. We never did the garter toss or the bouquet toss. He was so smashed I went around to everyone alone and apologized as they all left hours early. I took all the pictures alone with my family. We NEVER even sighned the married papers/license so we are NOT legally Married.

My fiancé is constantly apologizing and is bagging me to still marry him. saying he wants to do the whole thing over again! when and wearever I want. Im at a point now that I planned for so long and it was such a disaster because of things that were taken out of my hands. I don’t even want to go through planning just to be disappointed again. I love him so much I’m just so disappointed. If I do ever get married again I feel like I should just go to Vegas were everything is already setup and ready to go... or should I just forget getting married altogether?: